i m beautiful and it hurts me. i dont like this we have one child. i tried to talk to him about this but he gets mad on me. he watches women on tv in magzies, in stores on beaches i cant it anymorewat shoud i do? this is so hurting...
2007-03-15 08:11:30 · 12 answers · asked by carrie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
as long as he's looking and not touching don't worry about it. Look at other guys and see how he likes it.
2007-03-15 08:16:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
..... do you speak english? it appears you have a problem with your husband looking at big butts, but I'm not sure. I speak english, some spanish, and can figure out most latin-based languages by reading it, but this...??
Either way-maybe he does it to make you mad; maybe he is a human being; maybe, like any other man, he has the same biological make up as other men-big butts usually mean big hips, which are 'better for childbirth.' Maybe you should start staring at men's crotches in front of him until he gets it. Maybe you should have enough self-confidence to know that he cannot woo whatever big-reared celebrity he is staring at- at least, no more than you could woo Brad Pitt or whoever.
But the one thing I know for certain-you SHOULD use spellcheck.
2007-03-15 15:29:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It makes you wonder why you take care of yourself when he looks at other women. And it's especially hard to understand when you are attractive and he still looks at other women with lustful eyes and thoughts. He is wrong but society tells him it's okay. You want to be the girl of his dreams and the one he longs for and only has eyes for and he, being taught by society, thinks that is hog wash.
No matter how beautiful you, are until he realizes that he needs to stop this behavior, it won't matter. However, it's not your fault and it DOES NOT MEAN that you are not good enough or have done anything wrong.
I'm sorry. What he doesn't realize is that not only is cheating you out of the best, he is cheating himself as well.
2007-03-15 15:59:19 · answer #3 · answered by Stefka 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've told him how much it hurts your feelings then he's just being mean... Does he have a beer gut? Maybe you should mention that you'll lose some butt weight if he loses his beer belly... But, all men do LOOK at other women.. We like to compare to reassure ourselves that we got the best... Good luck!
2007-03-15 15:20:09 · answer #4 · answered by Foz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to burst your bubble, Honey, but they all look. They are human. Be glad he's not grabbing, or trying to "get up on that". Can you honestly say you don't EVER look at another man and at least think, "He's got nice arms", or "cute"???? If you say no, I'm taking you to confession. If you are beautiful, then where is your confidence? Plus, if he knows it gets to you, he may just do it to get a rise out of you. Don't let him. Just act like it doesn't bother you and see how long it continues. Start "noticing" other men and see how he likes that. Turn about is fair play! But most likely I'd ignore it, because it's just his immaturity, and his hormones. He's a man, he can't help it.
2007-03-15 15:20:28 · answer #5 · answered by a_lot_smarter_now 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
his making comments is where he is going wrong...when he grows up and older he will realize how wrong that is, but i must try my best to advise, all men look at butts, many times they don't even realize they are doing it, it is just a reflex i would gues, that doesn't make it right but it is the truth, but he should have some class and not talk about it or say rude things about it,
2007-03-15 15:27:27 · answer #6 · answered by dadx2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am really sick of the attitude people have today about guys looking at other women, looking at porn, etc. "Oh hes a guy, all guys do it", or "He can look/go to strip clubs/whack off to porn/etc as long as he does not ACTUALLY stick it in someone".
Demand some damn respect for yourself people! If a man makes a commitement to you, he should only be looking at you!
I bet he'd throw a fit if you started checking out other guys.
2007-03-15 15:18:51 · answer #7 · answered by Kristine R 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
stop being a PUNK! girl you better Woman UP! Ever man looks at another woman! EVERY MAN! NO EXCEPTION whether or not he acts on these feelings are the real key. SUCK IT UP becuz i know you have gave a fyne man that second glance time and time again. be easy with it long as he don't cheat or be all up in another womans face
2007-03-15 15:16:56 · answer #8 · answered by laneabridges 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe men like to look....but to all the women saying "Be glad he is not cheating"...are YOU FREAKING KIDDING ME???? Faithfulness of the body should be the LEAST a wife should expect! HE is already cheating with his HEART!
2007-03-15 15:44:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would try to talk to him again...and if that does not work try marriage counseling. You are his wife and you need to be treated like it. Girl stand up for yourself and tell him to get the stuff straight...or you might have to leave if it gets to bad. You never know cause it could come to cheating on you girl...im sure you have enough shrength to take up for yourself...
Good Luck & Follow Your Heart
2007-03-15 15:19:06 · answer #10 · answered by Punkgirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey, he's only looking. If he starts touching then you have problems. At least you know what he likes. Imagine him not being able to talk about "everything" with you. You're making it easy for him to do what he wants by pressuring him.
2007-03-15 15:19:45 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋