I have a wonderful man that gives me everything he can, he treats me great. We have been together for 15 years. As far as I know we both have been faithful to each other. In the last year he has been very sick. I am 58 and he is 65. He is not able to have sex and do the things we use to do. I still love him
dearly but I miss the good times we use to have. I dont want another man. I don't want to hurt him in anyway. I tell him I am satified with being with him to keep him from worryimg that I am goiing to see another man when I leave home. I am torn between my love for him and my need to be held and kiss and made love to.
2007-03-15 08:07:03 · 25 answers · asked by wondering 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Of course you can - out of any given day, how much time is spent on sex anyway?
Hug him, kiss him and be there for him. Even if he can't hold you what's stopping you from holding him and kissing him affectionately.
And you can always masturbate in private.
2007-03-15 08:38:41 · answer #1 · answered by Stefka 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thank goodness you have had a faithful man. He can still hold you and kiss you . That is better than being made love to by a husband , who just left his girlfriend. , or you do not know who or what he is bringing home to you. Love him even more for being faithful and good to you. You have something that most of us only dream of a faithful partner. Don't give in to the loss of sex , now that he is ill. Enjoy what he can do for you love you and treat you wonderul. I wish I had a man that would do that , I could appreciate that and remember the good times.
2007-03-15 15:31:24 · answer #2 · answered by springer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats to bad! Making love is not the only thing about a marriage. Why cant you cuddle with him and kiss him. Is he not capiable of holding you or kissing you?
You dont need to be out having sex with someone if you are still love this man, TRUST me the grass is not greener on the other side. My mom left my dad after 25yr to find "new" love and boy oh boy she has had a few partners and she has had a few beatings she wants my dad back but its toooo late..
Be thankful you have a wonderful husband after all these years.
2007-03-15 15:13:07 · answer #3 · answered by Alexis221 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You stay with this man, and stay totally faithful and true to him and your marriage. You do love him and care for him, and you need to let him know this all the time. Your perceived physical needs should be at the very bottom of your list. Even if he were lying in a bed in a coma, you could still be by him, feeling his body by you, holding his hand, rubbing his feet, snuggling to his beautiful face. You just smarten up and keep things in perspective, woman! He would be faithful to you, in a heartbeat.
2007-03-15 15:18:18 · answer #4 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does his health condition prevent him from kissing and holding you? Is he paralyzed? If he is, you have bigger problems to worry about than simply the lack of sex, I would think. I dunno, I think by the time I'm your age I would have had all the sex I'd ever want to have in my lifetime. Give your guy some respect, sex is not everything, especially once you're out of your 20s and 30s. And unless he's in the coma on life support, he can certainly still hold you, kiss you and be affectionate.
2007-03-15 15:15:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stick it out.
If he is unable to hold you and make love to you, that sucks. For you and him. I feel very sorry for you.
However, if you ran out and made love with someone else - you would destroy all that is left of him. Your love and devotion to him are probably all that keep him going. If you take that away, he will become a dead shell of a man.
Please don't do it. It's not like you're 30 and need to have kids anymore. Tell him you're his wife. For better or for worse. And you STILL wouldn't trade him for anyone else.
2007-03-15 15:13:44 · answer #6 · answered by Disco Stu 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What happened to for better or worse. You sound like a fair weather wife. When things are good you live it up. But when things turn bad you want to run and fulfill your sexual desires. How do you think that makes him feel that he cant be with you. Shame on you for putting your need for sex above your husbands well being.
2007-03-15 15:13:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you love him, then you need to be supportive of him until the end. So he can't have sex with you. But he can still hold you and kiss you, right? There are other ways to have sex. Oral, manual, toys, etc. Maybe you should bring it up to him and experiment with new ideas!
2007-03-15 15:13:30 · answer #8 · answered by bemaniac64 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Faithful is applying your faith to move this sickness from him. Doctors can only do so much but With God all things are possible. Jesus many times asked "Where is your Faith?" Only to show that it is He who is faithful and will remove any mountain that stands in our way. Is your mountain sickness? Then command it to go in Jesus name. Jesus wants you to be happy and He came to give you life and life in abundance but we need to know that we are more than conquerors in Christ and not allow the enemy of our souls to dictate our life and those in whom we love.
2007-03-15 15:54:08 · answer #9 · answered by *DestinyPrince* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be selfish. This is the man you made a commitment to. You have to honor that at any cost. Even if it cost you a sexless life.
2007-03-15 15:16:00 · answer #10 · answered by Jewells 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋