does she hate me?

Question

my best friend and i have been good friends for about three years now. but she always gets mad at me for the stupidest reasons. like if i sit with another one of my friends she will give me the cold shoulder for the rest of the day. she talks about me behind my back saying that guys only like me for my chest. so i am just wondering if i should maybe stop haninging out with her or if i should ask her about it help me

Answer 1

Hi Honey, sounds like you are in high school, and the problem is a little typical amoung so called "best friends".
What you really need to do first, is examine what the true meaning of a friend really is to you. Do you consider a friend someone that talks behind your back, gets jealous of other friendships, and holds grudges a "best friend"?
Personally, I would like to know why she is your best friend at all and how she became to be your best friend. It sounds as this is a emotionally unstable person that you are hanging around with. Her attitudes are not your fault, and they are beyond your control. She also sounds like she does not have enough confidence to make her own friends, so she uses you as a crutch.
Most likely she is verrrrry jealous of you. This takes up a lot of energy from people. You will feel very drained and tiring when you hang out with these kinds of people for too long. She is probably jealous of you, your looks, and your outgoingness.
Also, you are the one suffering from the abuse from this so called friend. Why are you worried if she hates you??!! If anything you should have the right to be very disappointed in her. You have done nothing wrong but just be her friend.
My best advice, would be (if you want to try and remain friends with her) is to confront the issue head on. Ask her why she talks about you, gets mad easily and holds grudges. I would also find out if she is jealous of you in some way. It also sounds to me maybe she is having a problem getting guys and is jealous you are getting more attention than her. I would also confront her about the chest. That's a very hurtful comment. Most of the time I find girls will admit that if they are jealous when having a heart to heart. Try and get her to open up about what may be taking place in her life right now. Who knows, maybe she is having problems with her family and wishes it was like yours. Or maybe you have a great sense of style and she is upset that she cannot have clothes like yours. Sounds really dumb, but girls get jealous about the stupidest little things.
If you feel that your conversation does not go anywhere with your best friend, and that you just cannot resolve it, you will need to just end the friendship. It is a hard thing to do, but it will be less stress on you. No matter what you do or say, you might now make this girl happy. She sounds extremely insecure, and resentful. You do not need people like that in your life.
Good luck with whatever it is you decide to do. Personally, I would stop hanging out with her, from experience you do not get anywhere with jealousy.

Answer 2

Best Friends are hard to find.... i had a friend who i have been friends with ever since we were 2yrs. old and she was just like that she talked about me behind my back and was jealous when i had a friend besides her.... But yet i still tried to maintain a friendship with her but couldn't call it "best friends" because a best fried is loyal and a person that knows the most about you but is still your friend anyway... i think that maybe you should still be her friend but distance yourself from her because she isn't what you would call a " best friend" or a "true friend" she sounds like she is very two faced and can not be trusted.. I would definitely talk to her about her backstabbing ways and let her know that she is hurting you ...
but that may not change the situation... my advice to you is to keep your distance only tell her things that you want her to know...
And, realize that she says things about you because she is jealous of you... she is a foe and not a true friend.. keep your distance or continue to be hurt...

Answer 3

I think that she's not your friend.. maybe she wants to be.. but she thinks she's acting right.. so tell her you don't like the way she acts for no reasons! And tell her that the only way to be truly and best friends is to be sincere and helpfull in ANY situation and not talk badly about you. Tell her what you fell.

Answer 4

Talk to her about it, Say "You've been ignoring me and talking about me" and maybe it'll work. Trust only your heart. Decide if you should leave her or not. But before you do that, give her one more chance. Warn her and say "If you say...... about me I won't be friends with you anymore. If she does it again walk away, even as hard as it is. You can make new friends and they'll be REAL FRIENDS.

Answer 5

Sounds like she's VERY inmature. Someone who talks about you behind your back, isn't your friend. And giving you the cold shoulder is so lame, and so first grade. i would stop talking to her until she learns to be real friend, because it sounds like she's jealous of you.

Answer 6

I think you should ask her about it cuz it's not right for her to be doing that if you guys are really best friends. If she keeps doing it then just stop hanging out with her.

Answer 7

i think that she might be jealous and she wnats you to only stay woth her. try to explain it to her that she should stay with others also. and about the behind my back talking YOU give her the cold shudder and tell it in her face plain and simple that you have other qualities exept your chest ( say all your qualities without stopping)

Answer 8

I agree with Kat. I'd talk to her and tell her how her antics make you feel! Maybe she's just a very emotional person!

Answer 9

I think that you should ask whys she is acting like that and tell her that if doesn't stop she could loose you as friend.And if she doesn't stop ditch her! You don't deserve a friend like that. She doesn't own you, do your own thing!

Answer 10

she needs to grow the hell up