espically when they have a WILLING wife waiting for them. do men not realize that they are hurting their wives by looking at other women? am i the only woman that feels cheated by her husband looking at other women to "get off"?? why can't he come to me?
2007-03-15 07:58:07 · 13 answers · asked by hollie z 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
read the whole question before answering....in reference to the "blue balls" comment. a man having sex with his wife 8-9 times a week shouldn't have "blue balls"....i know i left that part out but i did state that he has a willing spouse!!
2007-03-15 08:14:27 · update #1
OK, first of all, your man is not "withholding" anything from you just because he chooses on occasion to pleasure his own self.
It is totally natural in a mature, healthy relationship for BOTH men and women to pleasure themselves as well as each other.
You may be a couple, but even within that relationship, you do not "own" each others' bodies. He's perfectly welcome to touch himself if he wants to, and the same goes for you.
ALL of the sexual pleasure in the relationship does not have to come from one's partner.
We've been married for over 36 years, and we both pleasured ourselves before we ever met, and we saw no reason to abandon that pleasure just because we now had the opportunity for unlimited intercourse and/or oral.
One other thing, masturbation is NOT inferior or "second-rate" to either oral or intercourse. They are all a part of a healthy, normal relationship.
Do some reading of Betty Dodson's work; link below.
2007-03-15 08:44:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because it is natural, healthy and overall just a human thing to do. I don't see the big deal about it? I have fun with myself as well! Everyone does, whether they say they acutally do or don't.
Porn is not a bad thing, I am not sure why so many women freak out about porn unless it is obessive and your man it watching it non-stop. I'm telling ya, get a vibrator, put a video in and go to town. Try it before bashing it... Or better yet try a "rabbit" you will be a very happy woman! :)
2007-03-15 12:33:27 · answer #2 · answered by justme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aren't you the same one with a higher sex drive than your husband? Seems like there might be some issues in your life. But to answer your question they masturbate because it is quicker and easier and they need a sexual release. It is healthy for both partners to masturbate even after married. Get over yourself and let him have some privacy or better yet do yourself while you watch him.
2007-03-15 10:48:37 · answer #3 · answered by Trisha 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you volunteer to do it for him. Every once in a while I get this huge raging ***** that demands immediate attention. It's typically in the middle of the day and my lovery fiancee might be busy or just not in the mood at the moment. However, she always comes over and gives me a hand or two. She is an expert at working a big load out. She knows I appreciate it and will pay her back that evening.
2007-03-15 08:54:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men and women think completely different. In fact when I was first with my ex wife, and had sex all the time, I masturbated more often. sex with your wife is more about bonding, while the other is about getting off.
2007-03-15 08:18:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hollie
You need to talk to this man about your concerns and i can not understand why he would need to with a loving wife that enjoys loving her man 8 times a week tell him you will do it for him any time that its descent.
You should not feel cheated on but explain to him to cut back the looking around .Tell him it hurts you .
Ask him about his needs and desires also tell your needs and desires Eye to eye face to face no distractions
2007-03-15 08:29:45 · answer #6 · answered by Duck / Deer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
probably the same reason why women do it.. to get it done right!! not all men maturbate, plus there are some women who do it too. like some of your other responses, how willing are you? do you do EVERYTHING he asks? Why don't you watch some of the movies and do what those girls are doing, then eventually you will have done it all and he will stop and ask you....FREQUENTLY. Good Luck. It worked for me.
2007-03-15 08:26:02 · answer #7 · answered by sofiedriskell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because it feels good to us. I have read that even if a man has a great sex life, he will still masturbate. The pressure is off when we are "alone".
2007-03-15 08:50:22 · answer #8 · answered by goodtimingman30 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is not meant to offend you, but just how willing are you? and think of this question before you answer........are you giving into his every desire and wants....do ya meet him at the door with nothing on but a robe and smile with a towel on the floor? the towel is for your knees....and who knows, he may be thinking of you....either way he is a real lucky man to have a willing wife...many wives have forgotten how to be wives because they think it is taboo to do what their hubbys ask for....hope this helps
2007-03-15 08:21:46 · answer #9 · answered by phishsports 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to break it too you. sometimes masturbation feels much better than intercourse and it is healthy for a man to masturbate and healthy for the sex life too.
2007-03-15 08:19:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋