I've been seeing my hairdresser for 15 years and she does a fabulous job. We're not friends outside of her business, but I'd consider her as someone important in my life. Another friend asked me for a referral and when she arrived at the hairdresser's she was extremely rude. Told the hairdresser that "this is an interview" and "I expected to be pampered" and "I'm not interested in your drama" before even discussing the cut.
I'm so embarrassed by my friend's behavior that I'm bringing my hairdresser flowers tonight after work as an apology.
I have to continue a relationship with the rude woman as we are peers in business, we are in a band together and we have already paid for a retreat we're both attending next month (and we're sharing a room). But right now I can't even imagine hanging out with her.
How would you handle this?
2007-03-15 07:57:56 · 9 answers · asked by Aileen C 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I think you have a handle on the situation. Apologize, not for your friends rude behavior, but for referring someone who you had no idea would be so rude. Tell her it is ok with you if she decides not to take your friend on as a client. Your hairdresser does have that option.
Make sure she knows how much you value her expertise when it comes to your head and it is unfortunate that others do not value a good hairdresser.
Then let it go with the hairdresser, do not let either of you dwell on this rude person. I would certainly tell your friend that you were dissappointed in the way she treated your hairdresser. Tell her you would never recommend someone to her (your friend) if you though she (your friend) was going to be mistreated. You only recommend the best to the best of friends and she has shaken that trust of friendship.
2007-03-15 08:08:23 · answer #1 · answered by Mee-Maw 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's pretty amazing that you didn't know she was a jerk before this happened, seeing that you work together and all. Aside from that, if I were you I would have to confront her in a semi nice way and ask her what the hell she thought she was doing. So what if your in a band together and going to a retreat together, she doesn't sound like a very nice person so maybe its time for you to find another friend. She should be apologizing to your hairdresser and sending you flowers for her inappropriate behavior. Luck to you....
2007-03-15 08:10:27 · answer #2 · answered by SusiQ 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ask your friend why is such a B to people that are working for her. Tell her that's not how you treat people. If she can't handle the truth then that's her problem. I really don't think you should give your hairdresser flowers YOU DIDN'T DO ANYTHING WRONG YOUR FRIEND DID!!!!! You can explain to your hairdresser that you really didn't know her that well and you are sorry she is such a B.
As for you continuing a relationship with this woman YOU don't have to. There are other bands, and other retreats. Your friends are a reflexion of yourself. Is that how you want to be perceived by others.
Good luck,
L
2007-03-15 08:10:13 · answer #3 · answered by letigutierrez77 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would sit down with her and tell her that the things she said were inappropriate and kind of rude. The hairdresser lady probably feels mistreated and hurt inside that your friend said that. You might have to consider apologizing to the hairdresser lady. Or tell your friend that she needs to say that she is sorry to the lady. Then when nothing is going on tell your friend that you don't want to be her friend anymore b/c of her actions. Tell her that she was extremely rude. STOP BEING HER FRIEND SOON!!!!!!!
2007-03-15 08:07:55 · answer #4 · answered by girlsrulejenna 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are doing the ight thing by apologizing to your hairdresser. She has a hard enough day without your rude "friend". And I would be tempted to mention to the friend that you are surprised at her behavior, maybe she didn't realize how she sounded.
2007-03-15 08:10:26 · answer #5 · answered by georgiagrits1 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
First and formost apologize to your hairdresser, remember shes the one holding the scissors. And if you dont feel comfortable with your friend then start to distance yourself from her for a while. If she ever asks you to refer her again then either be upfront and tell her why you wont or lie and say you dont know anyone
2007-03-15 08:03:12 · answer #6 · answered by decent_averageguy 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just as you did. I would be ambarassed too. It's a really sweet idea to bring her flowers, and I'm sure that your hairdresser doesn't think of your friend as a negative reflection as you.
2007-03-15 08:02:48 · answer #7 · answered by thats_hot_097 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Now you know not to give her any personal information.
If you can change rooms discreetly ... great but if not then stay busy and when in the room go to sleep. But don't expect her to make your stay comfortable.
Selfish people don't think of others.
2007-03-15 08:03:56 · answer #8 · answered by ~Raspberry Tea~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell her just like you told us, the truth is the best way.
2007-03-15 08:03:12 · answer #9 · answered by James B 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋