im 19, she has been married to my stepdad for 15 years, i have younger siblings who will be affected by this..so telling my stepdad is not an option..i want to blackmail the MEN and dont want my mom to find out, is that legal? if not, what should i do. this is not a joke, im serious. i have tried to talk to her about a few times and she doesnt listen......
2007-03-15 07:52:47 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Blackmail is a generic term for trying to control somebody by threatening to do something that another person might regret. There is no law against it specifically unless you do it for money. Then it's call extortion and that is illegal. If any of these men are married or have girlfriends you can threaten to tell their mates of these affairs if they don't stop. There is nothing illegal about that. Why do you care if your mother finds out? She obviously doesn't care how you feel or how her actions damages the family. What is she going to do? Ground you? I hate blatant cheaters and your mothers actions sets a bad example for the rest of her children.
Maybe you should try to try seducing these guys for the fun of it and then tell your mom they were hitting on you and that you want them to stop. Just don't let these scum actually touch you. I bet you can break the hearts of all of these jerks, and your mom will see what kind of trash she associates with.
2007-03-15 08:24:07 · answer #1 · answered by IveBeenThere 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The same thing happened to me, I'm 19 also.
No it's not the men's fault. You should tell your step-dad. It'll be worse for your siblings to stay in a household where all this is going on. And plus..think about your step-dad...he doesn't know, so she could very well be bringing back stds to him since most married couples don't use protection.
Blackmail is never legal and these men are none of your business. Tell you step-dad...he WILL find out and it could hurt him to know that you knew and never told him...especially if he's got a std from his "loving" wife. Maybe talk to your mom..she is wrong.
2007-03-15 14:59:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Depending on the relationship you have with your mom, I would suggest you get you mom alone and have a serious talk with her (about how this makes you feel -- please do not try and tell her what to do because you would not like her telling you what to do). Let her know it is having a negative effect on your siblings as well. Blackmailing the MEN would only make the issue worse (for everyone probably). I do know you said you have already talked to her -- talk to her more -- Good luck!
2007-03-15 14:58:02 · answer #3 · answered by Hammer 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you learn from your mom's mistakes. And you should stay out of it. Blackmailing is not only illegal it can be dangerous.
Your stepdad may already know, anyway. If talking to your mom about it does no good, forget talking and begging.
Your mom is a grown woman and she know how she is screwing up. It is not your problem though, you mom will have to deal with the consequences.
2007-03-15 14:59:55 · answer #4 · answered by Mee-Maw 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Blackmail is illegal. Plain and simple. I know you probably don't want to hurt your mom or stepdad, but those younger children that you talk about are seeing how she is acting, and in the long run, that will hurt them too. They will grow up thinking that this kind of behavior is okay. If I were you, I'd talk to her and tell her that if she doesn't cut out the extra-marrital affairs, you will have to tell your stepdad.
2007-03-15 14:57:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Have you been taking lessons from her? Blackmail is bad behavior. Yes. It's illegal as well as stupid and dangerous because you don't know what type of men you might be playing with. If you truly care about your siblings, speak to your mother privately and air your concerns. In the end, it will still be her business. Right now, you sound as if you would be more interested in getting money than really helping the situation. Bad girl!!
2007-03-15 15:02:28 · answer #6 · answered by bombastic 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
probably your mom and your stepdad has problems you don't know about and she is just looking for a way outta the marriage. Probably you should really have a good talk with her and let her know how you feel about all of this. Even ask her how she would feel if you were doing what she is doing and make sure and ask her what kind of example she is setting for you to follow.
2007-03-15 15:01:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sorry, but blackmail is illegal. If you have enough information to blackmail them, though, you have enough information to stop them. Find out the names of these men's wives or girlfriends or mothers, and then tell each one that, if he doesn't knock it off with your mom, you will tell.
I think you're fighting a losing battle, though. If your mom is that slutty, she'll just turn around and find someone new, and probably get more sneaky. If she's vindictive, she might try to make life tough on you if she figures out you drove the men away.
2007-03-15 14:59:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Get proof, show your stepdad and then be prepared to never speak to your mother again. Truth be known no matter what you do the siblings are going to be caught in the middle.
2007-03-15 14:59:18 · answer #9 · answered by swtlilblonde31 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You don't do anything about the men, they are not the problem. You mom is the one at fault, she is a married woman. Tell your stepdad.
2007-03-15 15:22:10 · answer #10 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋