YOUR SPOUSE CHEATED AND GOT SOMEONE PREGNANT. YOU ARE NOT FOR SURE IT'S YOUR SPOUSES BUT YOUR SPOUSE ADMIT TO CHEATING? WOULD YOU STAY OR GO? KEEP IN MIND YOU REALLY LOVE THEM, BUT ALL IN ALL YOU ARE HURT ABOUT THE WHOLE SITUATION. WHATS YOUR OPINION IN THE MATTER?
2007-03-15 07:49:18 · 23 answers · asked by DeZigns By Monique 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would first ask my husband is he sure that the baby is his then I would go get checked to make sure he did not give me anything at all. Then tell him that you guys both need to seek marriage help of somekind. I know you are hurt but that is the best way instead of blowing your top and see if you can save your marriage.
2007-03-15 09:12:37 · answer #1 · answered by lz_adam 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would leave. I stayed with a man after he cheated on me and I never had the same trust for him. It made it really hard on the relationship as we were always fighting, i was always wondering and stressed about were he was and what he was doing even though he said nothing. You may love him but the felling are obviously not equal if he is out cheating he may tell you that they are but i can guarantee that they are not. Now that there is a baby involved things just got more complicated as now when this baby is born if it is his he will have no choice but to accept responsibility for this child so everyday there will be another memories of the women that your spouse was cheating on you with. trust me girl you need to move on now weather you want to or not you will be thankful that you did.
2007-03-15 08:02:48 · answer #2 · answered by slimnottygirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you stay, you have to really weigh all that will be involved with this decision. You will have to accept his child (if it is his), accept him having to correspond with the child's mother to some extent, accept him contributing to the financial support of his child, and accept your trust for him has been destroyed, accept he might cheat again. Some couples have been know to overcome all of these obstacles, others found it impossible. I personally, would find it easier to move on no matter how much I loved him. Better to suffer the pains of a broken heart for a while, than to have to put up with all I have mentioned for a life time. . But of course this can only be an individual choice. My advice would be to of course have him request a DNA test to determin parenthood. After this, there should be more clarity on what type of decisions you will have to make.
2007-03-15 09:26:32 · answer #3 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
depends on your husbands response when u confronted him, was he remorseful? did he acknowledge what he did hurt u? know that this child and woman could very well be in his life and yours for quite some time, if he is the dad, he will be paying child support, taking your marital as setts. of course u are hurt, and this is the kind of hurt that will not go away, because he now could very well have a child, and after awhile he may want this child in his life, regardless if u do or not. depends if i thought i could deal with this in the years to come, would depend if i had children by this man, would depend if my marriage had been a good one up until the cheating. would depend how many times he had cheated, u only know about this one time, is he going to stop seeing her? has he been sensitive to your hurt over this, or would he rather just kick it under the rug and not talk about it at all. depends on alot of things.
2007-03-15 10:38:16 · answer #4 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not an easy choice but I don't know if I could truly forgive him. And if I can't forgive, then I certainly can't forget. What kind of relationship would that be? Totally unhappy.
I've heard that it IS possible for a couple to recover from something like this and regain trust completely. But BOTH need to want it, more than anything. It takes all kinds of counseling etc. I don't know...if you feel in your heart and your gut that it is worth saving, and so does he (without a doubt), and your both willing to do the work, then go for it and stay.
Wish you the best.
2007-03-15 07:56:01 · answer #5 · answered by Maudie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would assume that my spouse did not love me back if this happened. I'd personally take full advantage of the opportunity and provide my divorce attorney with the name and address of the 'other woman' so she could be subpoened in the event the soon to be ex-husband didn't agree to give me all the financial assets. I'd laugh all the way to the bank as he struggled with arranging D.N.A. testing for the baby. If someone has to cheat on you, I can't think of a better situation for them to get their 'just desserts.' So, go get tested for sexually transmitted diseases, kick him out of the house, and sue for a divorce ASAP. Do you really want to invest the rest of your life in someone that lacks the capacity to love you back?!
2007-03-15 07:56:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why stay with someone you can't trust! He obviously doesn't feel the same for you (love) or he wouldn't have cheated! Do you want to spend the rest of your life wondering what (or who) he is going to do when he walks out the door, because you know you will! I say that you deserve better and to dump that BOYS A$$!
2007-03-15 08:11:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough one. If you love him and want to stay, then do. But if you're always going to be wondering who and what he's doing, then you know the answer. Keep in mind, now he will be tied in some way to this woman, so you'll always have that twinge of pain when you know he has to deal with her. (if it's his) Personally, I don't think I could ever trust him again. Yeah, he made a mistake, but now it's gotten bigger. See ya, Dude.
2007-03-15 08:30:26 · answer #8 · answered by a_lot_smarter_now 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've seen this happen a couple of times. 2 my mother n law in fact. Her relationship worsened. N another case her man never cheated and they got married. It's all on how you feel. Look deep into your heart and you'll know what 2 do. No one can tell U. Only you know.
2007-03-15 07:57:07 · answer #9 · answered by Mizz Peni 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go. Once a cheater always a cheater. How do you know if that person can be trusted again? And on top of that someone might be pregnant.. If he really loved you and cared about you, he wouldnt have gone after someone else.
2007-03-15 07:56:10 · answer #10 · answered by UnitedStatesofAlbania 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋