I am in the middle of a divorce...I met a man...wtih whom I have fallen in love with..is it possible to have a lasting relationship with this person
2007-03-15 07:45:22 · 20 answers · asked by Carrie A 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
REBOUND!! Done that alot in my past. Watch out...sometimes it works, sometimes it is hell to get out of!!
2007-03-15 07:49:03 · answer #1 · answered by rhonda_seiler 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Possible, Yes. Anything is "possible". A good idea? No. Not right now. I could kick myself in the butt a million times for not taking TIME to get over all the aftermath of my first divorce. And mind you, my current husband was every girl's dream (or so I thought), but it has turned into a NIGHTMARE! I should have taken more time to find out who I really was before getting all intertwined with someone new. You just get "new" problems. Of course you feel in love. You are going through one of the most difficult times ever, and here comes someone telling you everything you need to hear! I'm not saying he doesn't love you, I'm just saying TAKE IT SLOW! Real slow. I look back and realize a year wasn't long enough.
2007-03-15 08:00:58 · answer #2 · answered by a_lot_smarter_now 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who really knows what will last and what won't. All I know is that true love is special and that we should grab hold of it when we find it. Although you are just now getting divorced you may have been emotionally disengaged from the marriage for quite some time and you are now ready to move on. Just make sure that's the case and that you are not rebounding. Good Luck and enjoy life no matter what.
2007-03-15 07:51:50 · answer #3 · answered by Tammy A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my husband was the so called "rebound" and we have been married 8 years now and things are great. It is a matter of knowing what you want if you are emotional from the divorce you are not ready for another relationship.
I didn't see my ex as the enemy or as a heartbreaking loss and knew what I wanted out of a relationship. Be very careful because most relationships like that don't work.
2007-03-15 07:54:20 · answer #4 · answered by swtlilblonde31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going to have to agree with everyone else on this. It sounds like your typical rebound relationship. It's normal to have a variety emotions when going throw a divorce, but you need to give yourself some time to heal. Explain to the man that you need some time. If he wants to remain friends - that's great - but wait a few months before getting romantically involved. At least that way you'll know you're ready.
2007-03-15 07:52:03 · answer #5 · answered by reandsmom77 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is possible, but I would not recommend to as it can lead to an intimate relationship with your new love. As a result, this will change the grounds for your divorce and give your husband a reason to accuse you of adultery. Good luck!
2007-03-15 07:57:48 · answer #6 · answered by EP 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is possible, I even know how you feel. I am not going through a divorce, yet, but am sure it is coming. I fell in love with another man who broke my heart. Tread carefully, you are vulnerable right now some men can be reckless with our hearts. I am sure if you are meant to be with this other man you will be.
2007-03-15 08:32:20 · answer #7 · answered by sudokugg 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well of course it is. when i was going through my divorce with my husband I met the man i am with now who is the best man i ever could have found. he treats me like a queen, he was supportive through out the divorce and is still being that i have kids to my ex. good luck and follow your heart
2007-03-15 08:04:53 · answer #8 · answered by slimnottygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it slow - may be rebound or it could be the real thing. You have alot of different emotions thru a divorce so take it easy and slow
Best of Luck
2007-03-15 08:04:11 · answer #9 · answered by Confussedhere 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes..it happen to me. We dated five years after my divorce and now been married two. This is the happiest I have ever been. Keep working on the relationship and it should work out. Good luck.
2007-03-15 08:00:32 · answer #10 · answered by chrisisdifferent 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do yourself and him a favor, get completely done with your divorce and wait at least 6 months before pursuing anyone.
2007-03-15 07:49:49 · answer #11 · answered by Sheila 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋