i suffer with borderline personality disorder. i await assesment for therapy. i live alone in my own small, cooped up council flat. i have no social conection or friends. i feel socially cut off and feel its being done on purpous...every attempt at contacting any girl i like on myspace or other dating sites, i get no reponse , im being ignored, socially outcasted, i wanna no why?
2007-03-15 07:39:42 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
its called the" i live in manchester syndrome"
get out and about more
2007-03-15 07:44:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 5⤋
You might think you are an outcast but the reality is, unless you are royalty or an A list Hollywood celebrity, you won't get people fawning over you.
You have to understand that the rest of us are all in the same boat. Try to make the best of what you've got.
Find people with similar interests. Start a hobby, do some voluntary work, go travelling. The list is endless. If you find you are stuck in a rut, then don't worry about asking for help. Also, if you're suffering from depression, take advice from your therapist.
Good luck!
2007-03-15 07:59:46 · answer #2 · answered by Ginny Jin 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
My sister and a good friend of mine also suffer from a personality disorder. I understand how difficult it could be to interact with others, but the answer is not to go to dating sites. Get out in the world and have a real conversation. People need to know the real you before they can become close. Give it a try for a while strike up a random conversation with people you should see on a regular basis. The mailman for instance. It will give you excellent practise when you would like to have a more serious relationship with some one of the opposite sex. Try to do stuff the opposite of how you feel. It will make you more outgoing and will give you the opportunity to have real relationships with people. Not ones with persons who are just looking to get laid.
2007-03-15 07:52:49 · answer #3 · answered by blondegirl1472 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Is their not a local group for people with BDP it might help talking and befriending people that understand what you are going through.
Don't read to much into the dating sites as these people do not know you so not contacting you is not personal.
It may feel bad now but it will get better if you get out and start meeting people, why not do some voluntary work or go to dancing lessons.
2007-03-15 09:10:59 · answer #4 · answered by bill 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Maybe stop feeling sorry for yourself. You are saying taht no one talk to you on sites but you are probably coming across as feeling sorry for yourself and having no confidence. Also this conspiracy theory thing about everyone cutting you off on purpose! Seriously, get over yourself! People do not get together and say "oh lets all ignore him", it just doesn't happen, people have better things to do.
Basically, I know this sounds really harsh but I was given the same advise years and years ago and it has done me the world of good, but get over yourself, stop being the victim and get a backbone.
People are drawn to people with confidence. Join a club doing something you enjoy and are good at and meet people with similar interests.
2007-03-18 02:28:04 · answer #5 · answered by willowbee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You expect things to change. Loads of people out there feel like being socially outcasted. I for one don't believe your borderline personality disorder justifies how you feel. I too have been affected by this kind of interpretation of people's attitude towards myself. Sometimes thing just aren't as they seem.
2007-03-15 07:56:10 · answer #6 · answered by christian s 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
forget the dating sights and get out and meet real people you will feel this way staying in on the p.c all the time,and you don't have to tell everyone you meet that you have a personality disorder let them see who you are first .GOOD LUCK
2007-03-15 07:51:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
This is very sad for you..Try to find a club to join and make friends that way..Maybe you should meet up with males first and see how they behave before you interact with females..Do more listening than talking,we learn more that way...
2007-03-15 07:51:09 · answer #8 · answered by trish b 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its because you are reading to much into the situation, lots of people get ignored but dont take it to heart. Try to think more positive
2007-03-16 02:25:18 · answer #9 · answered by pingujones2007 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Go out and meet real people! Join a club or start a college course or something.
Dont start stalking people on the net or they will ignore you!
2007-03-15 07:51:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
Don't give up mate,wait for the results from your assessment.
2007-03-15 07:51:12 · answer #11 · answered by JT 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋