Currently once my son falls asleep I always lay him in his crib, sometimes he will sleep for 5 mins and wake up, is it ok to just let him cry? Should I put him in ther when he is awake and let him cry himselft to sleep. I have tried this and he cried for like 20 mins, and I can not deal with it.. I feel horrible. I don't know what to do. I am starting a new job, and I really need him to sleep in his crib. I also just quit nursing him and he is doing ok taking a bottle, but do you think this is too much at once? Any suggests would be great! I don't know what to do, but I don't want him sleeping in bed with us anymore either.... PLEASE HELP!!
2007-03-15 07:31:37 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
What Miriam said is absolutely correct. You said it yourself, "You feel horrible". That is because your instincts and your heart are telling you it is WRONG and against a mother's very nature! You are a wonderful mommy for feeling that way, if you didn't, you wouldn't be a good mommy.
Putting him on the bottle AND switching him to the crib was way too much for your little guy to handle. Nursing and sleeping with mommy are both huge comforts to your little one, and taking them both away, AND going back to work are going to overload your little one. I guess I would stick with nursing longer, try putting him down after he is sleeping in his crib, which should be in your room (next to your bed). Don't reinforce the idea that you are no longer his "comfort". Try to follow your heart and be there for him!
2007-03-15 08:16:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a 18 month son and it took me a while to make he sleep all night.- You can stay in the room in a chair till' he sleeps.- I did this and started working only in a week.- The first night he cried a lot, the second only when I put he in the crib, but this night he slept for the first time 8 hours.- I think that it's ok to let him cry, buy also he needs to know that you are there, that he is not alone.-
Sorry for my english.-
2007-03-15 07:43:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
there are no easy answers,but i used to read to my son tell he got tired and then i would put him in his bed and set by his crib and read and hold his hand tell he went to sleep,it didn't take that long to make it a routine.i don't think its a good idea to just let them cry at that age when older yes like 4yrs old but not now hes to young and don't understand.don't give in just say no and calm him from the side of the crib then slowly move back,set by him then at the door then it should be OK take a look at this hope this helps good luck
2007-03-15 07:45:16 · answer #3 · answered by raindovewmn41 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to put him in the crib when he is drowsy, but not asleep. The reason they wake up crying is because they have fallen asleep in one place and then they wake up somewhere else.
I do not like the crying method at all. I believe in letting him stay in the crib but going in to reinforce your love for him while he is crying. You go in and comfort him, maybe even offer a pacifier while sleeping for comfort. I did this with my six month old and it really worked. It also make them confident in your ability to care for them and their trust in you.
Try some soft music playing and a dim light or white noise in addition.
Good Luck
2007-03-15 07:41:48 · answer #4 · answered by qpook 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes its okay to let him cry, though it does get annoying. Teaching him to fall to sleep on his own is a very good way to teach healthy sleeping habits. Just keep a regular bedtime routine like a bath and reading him a book. Something like that because it lets him know whats coming next. Cuddling and reading to him is the best effective way because he'll get that mommy time he needs before being placed in the crib. What helps my two babies at bedtime is a revolving lamp of moon and stars light show on the wall and ceiling after I tuck them in and leave. Hope this helps.
2007-03-15 07:48:52 · answer #5 · answered by Mom of 5 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
At nine months there isn't any reason not to get your son to sleep on his own. The best way to get him use to it, would be to put him in his crib while he's still awake. I know the crying is hard to deal with. But over a short time the crying will get shorter and shorter each night. Besides potty training, getting a baby to go to sleep on their own is very hard. The crying makes you feel like a bad mom. But your not, your helping your son live a healthy life.
2007-03-15 07:40:30 · answer #6 · answered by norielorie 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
it;s ok for him to cry for a little while no more than 10 min though rock him or her and when he or she is almost sleeping put him or her in their crib so they can get used to falling asleep on their own and get used to the crib
2007-03-15 07:40:00 · answer #7 · answered by heather w 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Of course it is. When he cries just walk into the room pat his back and walk out. Do that every half houruntil he sleeps. This lets him know that you are there and eventually it will become easier for him to get used to sleeping alone.
2007-03-16 20:35:45 · answer #8 · answered by scandalousxsgv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
rock the baby until he falls asleep then gently place him in his crib. It would also help if you maybe got used to him sleeping with some very soft music, to relax him a lil more. Before you leave the room, place a sofa pillow beside him. If he wakes up, place the pillow over his face, turn up the music and walk away.... he won't cry for very long, I guarantee you.
2007-03-15 07:43:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
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2007-03-18 03:11:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋