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My friend e-mailed me wanting some help. She tells me that her son's relatives want to take him on a Disney Cruise. The problem is the cruise is during the first two weeks of school next year. She doesn't want to be the bad guy and say, "Sorry he can't go," because they've already gotten the tickets. What can she do to make everyone happy? She's tierd of fighting with them.

2007-03-15 07:25:43 · 13 answers · asked by brwneyedgrl 6 in Family & Relationships Friends

13 answers

They should have asked for her permission before buying tickets, especially since the child will be in school. I would probably have to nicely explain that the cruise is during the first two weeks of school and it would not be good for him to miss that much school especially at the beginning of the year. He will be coming into the class as a newcomer when everyone else is already getting into the groove. I would thank them and apologize but let them know his education is more important and next time they should check first before buying tickets.

2007-03-15 07:30:54 · answer #1 · answered by Kiwi 5 · 0 1

You didn't mention what grade this child is in. If he is in elementary school, it really isn't a big deal. You can always get ahold of the teacher and have the child do the work along with his cruise, or befor they leave on the cruise. It's not a matter of being the bad guy. There are reasonable ways to take the vacation. Get ahold of the school and find out what the options are. Make sure they know when and that the vacation has already been confirmed.

2007-03-15 14:34:45 · answer #2 · answered by HDGranny 4 · 0 0

honestly, i think the best thing she can do is just tell them he will be in school. it is wrong of them to do that. maybe she can pay them back for the tickets? or if not can they get a refund? a cruise in not an excusable absence from school. too many absents the kid will become truant and she can go to jail, not them. really the best thing is to just tell them no and that they shouldnt have gotten the tickets without her approval. the childs school might have a program that will let the student have an independant study contract if the child is absent for more than 6 days where they just send out the homework and school work to do at home. she could check into that. but then he wouldnt be doing the work more than likely. she should just stand up for her kid. because no one else is going to. its her kids future. i cant believe someone would even do that without first asking a parent. how immature.

2007-03-15 14:38:08 · answer #3 · answered by jbarker 2 · 0 0

Most schools won't allow a child to miss that much school. I wouldn't send him on the cruise because then he is going to miss all the fun of getting to know the class and teacher that usually happen at the beginning of the year. It wouldn't be being the bad guy, it would be being a responsible parent.

2007-03-16 13:10:14 · answer #4 · answered by ○•○•Cassie•○•○ 6 · 0 0

Well I think it was rude for them to make plane without consulting your friend. She needs to explain the importance of education and see if they can go maybe during spring break or that following summer. Some places will just change the date of the tickets so they would not have to refund the money. If not the oh well they should of asked before buying the tickets

2007-03-15 14:34:24 · answer #5 · answered by Sarah G 3 · 0 0

Tell her, to tell them, to change their plans and rearrange everything around her sons schedule. Your friend will always be the bad person the way it sounds. The cruise should be arranged at least 3 weeks before he begins his school year. Tell her to be firm and stick to her guns and stop being a door mat.

2007-03-15 14:37:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Ask the kid and make sure he understands and promises that if he goes then he must work extra hard at school and get very good grades, otherwise there will be consequences in the future. Like no fooling around in a long time.

2007-03-15 14:36:11 · answer #7 · answered by Gustav 5 · 0 0

just let him go that s her kid she wants the best for him if there work get from the school before they leave or just make it up come on its a DISNEY CRUISE!!!=D

2007-03-15 14:32:10 · answer #8 · answered by devon a 2 · 0 0

1st, how are his grades? next, talk to the school and see if they can set him with after school classes to make up missed time.
i would seriously gauge this according to how the child behaves, does in school.
if he does really well and something can be worked out with school, expenses are all paid, why not?

2007-03-15 14:39:59 · answer #9 · answered by bearfox_traders 3 · 0 0

Discuss the issue - they should be able to change the dates.

They shouldn't have made these types of arrangements without talking to his mom anyhow!

Best of luck.

2007-03-15 14:30:40 · answer #10 · answered by tigglys 6 · 0 0

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