I can orgasm on my own but not through intercourse. I don't think it has to do w/ my partner. I enjoy it, I just don't get to that point. It has nothing to do with length of time it lasts either, that doesn't work and neither does a lot of foreplay. ANY ADVICE would help. Thanks.
2007-03-15 06:57:29 · 10 answers · asked by tawneelove17 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Some times guys don't know the right spot, at the right time. I've never found one that did. I usually bring myself to orgasm. If you can use a vibrator to orgasm, without inserting it, I suggest trying it with your partner. There are a couple of positions you can try, that will allow him to be in you, while you work with the vibrator. It's great, because you can bring yourself to as many as you want, before he comes.
2007-03-15 07:03:14 · answer #1 · answered by janice 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can orgasm on your own, you can orgasm, so you have had orgasms. Now you can have them during sex with your partner. He can stimulate you the way you do it when you orgasm on your own. Show him what you like, teach him. Be patient with him, don't put pressure on either of you, allow both of you a little time to get comfortable with the idea and don't expect that it's going to be great right away. Relax, have fun with it and it'll happen. I suggest that you start with manual stimulation and when you master it, move on to oral. Both work great. Try to accept a possibility that you might never have an orgasm through intercourse and that if so IT'S OK! I know it's hard, especially with all the myths we are surrounded with about 'true' vaginal orgasms, simultaneous orgasms, etc. Don't let those myths discourage you. Girl power, we can do it!
PS As you might have guessed, I've never had an orgasm through intercourse, I'm getting better at coming to terms with that and I do have orgasms every time I'm with my husband
2007-03-15 09:47:04 · answer #2 · answered by praha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think i have to agree with mlgable on this one. Some women just dont orgasm thru intercourse. Honestly, i'm 23 and i think i've only had an orgasm once in my life thru intercourse. And that was surprising! Other than that, im on the same boat as you, gotta do it myself. i feel bad and gotta lie to him, though. So sad.
2007-03-15 07:07:14 · answer #3 · answered by blah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MOST women DO NOT ORGASM WITH INTERCOURSE!!! Why is it so hard for women to understand that many women do not orgasm with intercourse? If you don't orgasm then it is up to your partner to either manually or orally finish you off to orgasm.
2007-03-15 07:01:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
as quickly as I first began having intercourse, the orgasm, wasn't this form of huge deal. it would in no way crossed my concepts. I certainly have seen on television women persons who've in no way had one or theory they had, etc. the only thank you to be attentive to in case you're no longer optimistic, is to have one. reason theres no mistaking the actual deal. If their asking than thats straight away a no they have not. this is extra straightforward than i had theory.
2016-11-25 22:00:29 · answer #5 · answered by newcomer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not alone, probably the majority of women do not reach orgasm through intercourse alone. Thats why they invented oral sex (just kidding). Personally, I have no problem if the woman I am with reaches down and brings herself along, so to speak, go for it, no sense missing out.
2007-03-15 07:06:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Many woman have difficulty reaching orgasm with a partner because of nervousness.
2007-03-15 07:03:44 · answer #7 · answered by worldtraveller 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal for some woman. However you get yourself to orgasm on your own is how you need to stimulate yourself during intercourse. Don't be embarrassed to introduce new things to your sexual relationship.
2007-03-15 07:02:30 · answer #8 · answered by be happier own a pitbull 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not alone. Very, very, very rarely do I have an orgasm through intercourse. try working out you pc muscles.
2007-03-15 07:04:40 · answer #9 · answered by j_pedid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is also common for women to blame the men. Even though it is their body and they know how it works.
2007-03-15 07:04:00 · answer #10 · answered by Let's Go Muddin' 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋