Do you think you can still get it right the first time?

Question

Is it still possible to marry the right person the first time? Are do you think in today’s social environment it takes a couple of runs to get it right?

Answer 1

if you know what you want and stick to finding it you will do well.
my husband and I are "Married for Life" all we want is to grow old together.
we just attended a 60th anniversary together and walked away wondering if we can live that long.
and dont think this is from a bed of roses type relationship we have been through hell and back together, family problems, money problems and worst of all health problems.
but you must use brains to marry not "feelings" or "sexual attraction" if you find someone that meets what you are looking for you will fall much deeper in love than if you go off a
flighty feeling.

Answer 2

I truly believe that its possible - its such a shame that in this day and age it all comes accross as so negative - i myself am only 25 and not married although have met an amazing man - im not silly it could all go wrong somewhere down the line but ive lived most of my life being negative and now that ive found someone who makes me incredibly happy - well why push that away - its all about communication and team work - you need to support one another etc - i feel that you either become as 'one' or stay seperate - either way things can work - but i guess when you fall out of love well - you do you cant stop that from happening... - i have a son from a previous relationship and people have said to me you should have made it work etc - but it wasnt right it was an unhealthy relationship - but now i have found the right person for me - well when its right you wil put 110% into it - lifes a challenge full of risk and paths to take - marriage can work - but i guess you can only go by how you feel at the current time - no one knows what the future holds - all i know is you have to go into it knowing its for life - and giving it your all - you need to ask yourself seriously are you with the person you want to spend the rest of your life with - think and look at every aspect....

Answer 3

Well, that's mostly up to you. I believe it can still happen, but both people have to be willing to do the "right" thing. You have to be willing to go 100% all the time with no questions asked. This 50/50 bullcaca is nothing more than a load of crap. It should be 50/50 but rarely is, and if it's not, you have to be willing to make up the slack. I will say, statistics are piled up against you, but that doesn't mean it's impossible to have a great marriage that lasts the first time around. (and you're talking to someone on her second bad marriage, who for some reason, still believes there are good guys out there.)

Answer 4

I married the right man the first time......but timed it wrong.

To explain. The first time around we were only 19 and 21. No clue how much work a marriage is etc. Split up after less than 2 years.

18 years later he found me on the net. Turns out he had always loved and missed me like I did him. We are now reunited and have been together longer than our first marriage lasted. We do plan to remarry eventually, but at the moment are just reviling in the fact that we found each other again. We are perfectly suited to eachother in every way.

Answer 5

You should really spend a great deal of time getting to know someone before you marry them. If by the end of 2 years you can see yourself spending the rest of your life with this person - annoying habits and all - then the two of you should be committed to growing old together. No marriage is perfect. No person is perfect. You have to accept the changes that come with marriage. You won't always feel that newly in love feeling. But the love changes, it deepens - if you are willing to work at it. Yes, i definitely believe that you can "get it right" the 1st time. But it just doesn't happen, you have to be pro-active and make it work.

Answer 6

I believe that you can get it right the first time. I married my high school sweetheart and we have been married 14 years. It has been great. There are bumps in the road, but you take them as they come together. Sometimes I think people rush into marriage too quick and end up not knowing enough about the other person.

Answer 7

It is possible to marry the right person the first time..The problem with marriages now adays is that people rush into marriages. Young marriages do not have the mental ability to support a marriage. Most people are not ready for marriage until they are approx in their 30's.

Answer 8

If you boil down the social problems of now and any other time in history I would say that the problems remain the same. Its the people and how they handle the problem.
If you educate yourself and are mature in you decisions you can find the right person. Work hard at it and you will find it.

Answer 9

I don't know dude, but I am going through a divorce from a woman that I thought would spend the rest of her life with me. We started dating in high school, turns out she was not the person I thought she was. Time changes people but I think I got it wrong from the get go.

Answer 10

Of course you can!
After all, THAT is the idea....To think it very well and to try to choose the right person to spend the rest of your life with.

Unfortunately, this is now seen as uncommon since so many of us make mistakes and then have to divorce. But if we really want to make the right decision, we should always be honest with ourselves and with the other person...And ask God to help you and guide you.