What house rules do you enforce for kids who still live at home, go to college and work? Do I still have to cook for them? Wash their clothes?
2007-03-15 06:42:27 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
you don't have to. my mom does though. I try and do my own share though because I dont want her to have to do everything for me. I wash my own clothes and cook whenever I'm home. I don't have a curfew, but I always call if I think I'm going to be later than usual. I don't have to pay rent but instead I pay her whatever is left from my pay check after I pay for the interent, cell phone, and credit card bills. It depends on you. If you don't want to continue to take care of them like when they were younger then don't. Tell them they have to start caring for themselves and that you're just giving them a place to stay for a while.
2007-03-15 07:17:28 · answer #1 · answered by angelicasongs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 18, they should be washing their own clothes. Food – unless they can afford to go out every night, have them help you either prepare meals, set up the table or clear the tables, dishwashing, chip in for grocery etc. If they ask you to wash the clothes and fix the meals then charge them for it. Give them a curfew too. Just because they 18 doesn’t mean that they can do whatever they want in YOUR house. I’m not saying be home by 8pm just compromise on a time. Come up with agreement of what is expected from him or her that both of u will feel comfortable with.
2007-03-15 14:12:04 · answer #2 · answered by Baby J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My kids were washing their own clothes at 16. They had a curfew appropriate for their age and once they graduated they knew they had to work or attend college. If they chose not to attend college they paid rent but had no curfew. But honestly after they graduate high school and are working they should be given a key and lose the curfew.
As for cooking for them.... they knew what time I made dinner. If they missed it they could warm it up or make a sandwich.
You teach them to be respectful and responsible and hope that what you taught sticks.
2007-03-15 13:51:28 · answer #3 · answered by mommakaye 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you can tell the 18 year old that they can do things to help out around the house or start charging them rent. They can wash their own clothes and help keep the house clean too.
2007-03-15 13:48:08 · answer #4 · answered by ruthie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't have to do anything for them they are legal adults now
personally i would say no curfew unless their lifestyle is upsetting you waking you up when they come in all hours of the night. but they should respect your house they same way they would respect their own apartment. you most likely spent the last 18 years picking up after them and tending every need now i think its time they return the favor maybe they could cook dinner one night of the week and help out with chores around the house. it will prepare them for real life outside your home and they might realize life is not just all fun and games.
2007-03-15 13:58:47 · answer #5 · answered by alina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you shouldnt be asking us, the question is do you want to do those things? and since your asking i dont think you do and you want someone to say it's okay and for some reason you feel like it might make you less of a good mother/father if you dont but guess what it wont! they are an adult now cooking i can see if you are cooking for you and your husband might as well make enough for the teen but not got home 4 hrs after you cooked dinner and wants you to make waffles or something..lol and he/she needs to learn how to take care of the laundry and be responsible for one's self so don't worry so much don't feel guilty just sit the kid down and say look, i need you to start doing these things for yourself your an adult now and it's time you start becoming more independant. and from there just be loving and caring as any mother/father would good luck to you Mom/Dad :D
2007-03-15 13:50:39 · answer #6 · answered by KarenLynne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We do not have to do these tasks for our children, I believe we choose to do them. Part of us say I'm not doing this anymore! But then when we see there wash, we kinda feel bad and say OK she is working, and she is going to school, and I am home, so You end up doing it. You could tell her that you expect her to clean up after herself, and to start doing her own wash. But I'm sure like you if I see it down near the washing machine, I'll end up doing it.And then be angry with myself.
2007-03-16 16:22:32 · answer #7 · answered by lennie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋