Why do women demand expensive jewelry?

Question

Ok hot topic at my work.....

Why does a woman need an expensive ring or other jewelry? Isn't it purely a status symbol - specifically, a symbol of the financial abilities of their husband/boyfriend?

I find that the notion of women demanding equality (which I am in total favor of) where they have the same responsibilities and benefits as men is totally at odds with the requirement that they then be covered with glitzy stuff to show off how rich their man is?
Really - 2 months salary? If I were to buy my wife a $13,000 ring, I would hope that she would prefer I bought a $2000 ring and used the rest as down payment on a house, or even a total blowout honeymoon.

As it turns out, I was a poor student when we got married and it was "only" $1,200. But if I had to now - she would be embarrased that her husband was such a cheapskate.

Women - why do you need this crap? Isn't it just there to show off to other women how much money your husband has?

Answer 1

So they can show it off to friends. simple.

Answer 2

You need to marry someone with brains.

Not to insult your wife, but she should appreciate what she gets from you. If you were poor when you get the ring, and still paid that much, she should be proud of the love you show… still I would prefer someone who would get mad and ask me to return it in exchange of something I can afford.

Is the though what counts, not the value in money or gold weight. A woman that is ashamed of that is not worth it, at least, not to me.

I got my Wife a nice ring, imported from Italy, and I was able to get it very cheap thanks to my contacts. The rest of the money I saved we used it to take a little vacation to celebrate to engagement. I think it was a way better way to use the money as we had lots of fun.

And same thing, our wedding, we saved money for it, and then did the best we could to do something nice, and still, cheap. We had almost 200 people, and as per their comments, everybody though the reception was almost triple of what we end up paying.

That is one of the reasons I love my Wife, she would do just like me and look for best offers. Still, she asks for expensive gifts and jewelry, but she knows I will look for good deals, and so she will, and if if too expensive, then we forget about it. We rather spend the money for a house improvement or in a vacation somewhere around the world.

If you ask me, to spend $1000 on a piece of gold in your finger is really stupid. I can buy a $10K ring if I wanted to, but why would I do that? No reason. I rather put that money toward education for my future kids.

Set priorities in your life and stick to them and don’t waste the money on things that are not needed. My advice.

Answer 3

I never demanded an expensive ring from my husband and I can't care less about what other people think of our state of wealth. In fact, I picked very reasonable rings for our wedding (within 200 euros each). I do like nice things though, but I am working and enjoy being able to earn money the same way my husband does. Having said that, I have a friend, who has a thing about diamond rings and likes to showing them off to friends. Personally I think that these women have low self-esteem and it's their way of feeling better about themselves. For example, this particular friend has no interest in working and, frankly, I think she is afraid she won't be able to earn money and get a good job more than anything. Unfortunately, things will never fill a hole in their spirit as it takes something different to feel good about yourself.

Answer 4

Historically jewelry was security for the woman. If her husband died at sea or something, she'd have her jewels as something of value to get by on.

Today, it's just all marketing hype from jewelry stores. There ARE no hard and fast rules. Don't overreact to it - I bet you hear all that more from your TV than from actual women.

Buy your wife what you think she will like. If a woman demands a ring they can't afford, she's not worth marrying.

Answer 5

its not the idea of how big it is, at least not to me.
not all big things are beautiful, some things that are fine and simple look ten times better then a rock the size Mt. Everest, but how often do you find jewelers advertising about that cute little ring that is barely visible with the naked eye. they advertise about the fine piece of jewelry that will be a purchase of a lifetime.
advertising plays a huge role in what we believe is necessary and whats not, we are brainwashed into believing we need things that we really don't need, that's how we get into debt and that's why you feel that women are greedy, it's the same as men and their gadgets or in some cases cars

Answer 6

You need to revise your estimation of women. Maybe SOME women do this but not all!

My other half was upset with me for a bit. He put a down-payment on a $1600 diamond engagement ring for me.
1) I HATE diamonds.
2) I HATE gold.
3) There's NO WAY I would wear something that expensive and unpractical. Not when we need other things. I made him go get his deposit.
We found a nice ring, custom made, silver setting. For my main stone I picked a Garnet since we BOTH have that for our birth stone. For the 2 little chips to either side I chose 2 tiny opals.
This little masterpiece is only costing us $500.00 and it will be one of a kind unless someone copies us later.
I find that much nicer than a more expensive and impracticable piece of jewelry. It also means more because we designed it together!

Answer 7

not all women demand expensive jewelry. my engagement ring and wedding ring only cost my husband $500 for the set. I think that it's more important how much time and thought a man spent then how much money he spent. Maybe it's just me, and maybe I'm just really low maintenance but I'd rather have a $50 ring that my husband thought I would love then a $10,000 ring that's "ok".

Answer 8

The ring is the only thing I would like to be pricey.....not all my jewlery has to be expensive....you must remember, it is MEANT to be worn a lifetime......don't you think a few thousand dollars is worth 50-60 or more years of having a woman stand by your side, thru good and thru bad, bearing and raising your children...everything???? It is not so much a means of showing off a dollar amount, but an outward expression to the world of how much you VALUE your woman.

I am mostly a practical person, and yes, I think I would more enjoy having a nice down payment on a house BUT, a few thousand dollars would be nice for a ring......

Answer 9

I don't know any women who have ever demanded jewelry, expensive or not...so your question would be more appropriately worded as "Why do some women...."

For those that do, it may be a status issue...or how they measure your feeling for them (the more money you spend, the more you must like/love them).

Personally, I'm not into expensive jewely...I'd much rather spend that kind of money on something we could both enjoy instead of a rock on my finger or a necklace/bracelet that most people wouldn't be able to tell was real or fake anyway.

Answer 10

All I can say is you must know some pretty shallow women...definitely not the types I know. Only women with little sense or decorum and what is appropriate in the upper class would want "baubles". Most women with class have very few pieces of jewelry but what they have are quality pieces. Someone who needs jewelry to show their status or their husband's is not someone who will get ahead.

Answer 11

Personally - I don't expect anyone to buy me expensive jewelry. If I want something like that I save the money to get it for myself. I recently got engaged and I already had a 3 carat diamond ring which I bought for myself and really love. Now it's my engagement ring, and my fiance is planning a fabulous honeymoon.

As far as showing off how much money my fiance makes; not true because I earned it myself.