Why does there seem to be more friction when I talk to other males as opposed to females?

Question

I always feel like there is a better report with talking to females I sometimes feel a competitiveness when I talk to males.

Why do you think? Same for you ladies?


p.s. i am not gay.

Answer 1

I think its the same for both sexes. As some other girls have said, they get on better with males, and so do I. I think male and female qualities naturally complement eachother. In nature, men will be in competition with men and likewise females with females. We are biologically programmed to attract the other sex and be in competition with our same sex. Therefore maybe we are not so far removed from our primitive nature as we may sometimes think we are! :)

Answer 2

You're supposed to be competitive.
There are rarely any animals that hunt together.
Men talk to share info.
Sharing info can mean leading your competition to the target prey.
Sounds too hokey for you?
Could be, but it's just an exaggerated way of showing you that this makes sense in the real world.
Women are likely to benefit from whatever you bring home. Women share out the spoils among her children, and sometimes with other women.
Why wouldn't women be more social than men?

Answer 3

I get on better with males than I do females - even though I am training for a job in a predominatly female industry. I feel like I have more in common with males or females who are tomboys. I find a lot of women really bitchy whereas men will tell you when you p*ss them off. I also like things like computer games, football and proper bands and these are usually liked more by males and tomboy females

Answer 4

Are you competetive? Are the men you talk to? I get along with males and females alike. The only friction I feel is what I cause. Maybe you're causing this subconciously.

Answer 5

Did you grow up with lots of brothers or a competitive father ?

Answer 6

clearly, it particularly is the is the version btw a female and male techniques. of direction no person is one are the different you in all probability and you have greater a female techniques and locate it greater comforting to communicate to females and we females beneficial choose to communicate.

Answer 7

But if you were a girl the competition is worse

Answer 8

Yeah, it's the whole Machoness thing but women do it sometimes too.

Answer 9

like i sed to the other dude its cos women listen

Answer 10

This may not be all of it, but give this some consideration.
___Boys are raised to think of themselves as possessing less intrinsic moral worth than girls. Boys engage in nasty violence, but the manipulative sorts of things girls do go unnoticed and undiscussed. (See the literature on girls' bullying; it examines girls' bullying, but only insofar as it affects other girls. But at least it goes into the sorts of manipulativeness girls engage in, and demonstrates the one-sidedness of the way American conventional wisdom defines "evil".)
___Boys grow up a bit uncomfortable with their own capacity to do good. So you find yourself in a room with a bunch of men who have to do twice as good as women to be considered "good", but few know why. With women, though, you find yourself talking with the creatures who are blessed with the "moral authority" to clear up this discomfort, to judge you "good" and make you feel better. This is the way feminism thinks the world ought to be, and they've made it happen by manipulating the moral landscape. The approval of your male friends doesn't matter as much.
___Your male friends are taught that they are intrinsically competitive, and may tend to act accordingly. But in centuries lomg past, when there was an authentic patriarchy, men defined their striving NOT in terms primarily in relation to others, but in terms of striving to be one's best, or to be effectual over against ones context in general. In other words, when men were in charge (admittedly one-sidedly), they defined their striving as guided by ideals, not as a win-lose competition. The former striving can celebrate the achievements of one's peers, while the latter does not.
___Feminist psychology tells us that women tend to define themselves in terms of their relations to others more than men. This puts competition in a different light. Striving, when cast in a more feminized, relational mould, becomes competitiveness. You and your friends have been brought up to view your striving in a degraded, feminized light.
___Feminism defines reality and humanity in feminine terms, but because feminism works in more indirect, manipulative ways, they still maintain that because men are in positions of nominal power, we have a patriarchy. Most of the men who get to power have to accept a certain amount of feminism. some of them are more obviously p####-whipped, like the previous president. Bush is just a reactionaly abberation.
___The traditional older principle of equality between the sexes is sound, but the criteria oe equality have been fudged in the past 50 years or so, by measuring power in only those terms where men tend to have the edge (effectuality in the physical and material world) and excluding from consideration those areas where women tend to have the edge (emotional and psychological manipulation). Of course, feminism comews out "justified". The notion of "who we are" as humans has been defined primarily in emotional terms, and no longer in the terms of rationality that were current long ago. There are many other methodological distortions of this sort. And men are enlisted, because men are eager to do what they are told is "good", or rather, what they are conditioned to believe is "good".
___One other thing-- You may have already become acquainted with the notion that testosterone is associated with a tendency toward violence. The other side of it is that men tend to experience their emotions as more expolosive than those of women. Men who kill their wives are far more likely to do so in crimes of passion, while women who kill husbands do so with poison or by hiring killers. In ancient times, there was far more emphasis in mental health on self-control than on getting in touch with emotions. Men hide their emotions because men experience their emotions as more brutal experiences, and this is what makes men vulnerable to women's emotional manipulations (which, to be fair, are not always exercised to do harm). There is an emotional escapism in male experience, and it's no accident that it was during patriarchy that the fundamentals of abstract thinking and mathematics were invented. And its no accident that most of the intellectual, artistic, and technical innovations in history were done by men, for innovation is violence committed against the status quo.
___Feminism isn't all wrong, and patriarchies are just as one-sided, but it's an apples-and-oranges sort of dominance that you're subject to, so the feminist criteria of oppression will not show up if you try to detect feminist oppression when you apply them to the question. The excesses of feminism are there, but they aren't easy to sort out, because the "available" methods are fudged.
___Good luck. Cut your male friends some slack, and take the soothing of your female friends with a grain of salt. Unless you're hanging out with some unconventional thinkers, they don't know what they're doing.