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My husband and live together,recently he got into trouble with the law. I care for him with the kids and 22yrs. of cheating and lies.I want to help him but right away all the pain constantly blocks me so so much its eating me up alive! no counseling or anything has helped me. my conscience says remember what he did 24/7 im tired of being angry all the time..what is that voice that keeps reminding me..wish for it to stop!!!!!!

2007-03-15 06:19:55 · 4 answers · asked by lasilent71466 1 in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

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It's the voice that won't every be quiet - he obviously hurt you very badly. I too was in a marriage and took alot of hurt from him. I told him that as kind as I was I did have a breaking point. Well, after 15 years he finally pushed me to that point and I divorced him. There was no other resolution and I felt confident that I gave it my best.

2007-03-15 06:24:30 · answer #1 · answered by Dee 3 · 0 0

Your asking for it to just go away. Do you believe with time will heal. If you do and did nothing to move on your back at the same spot you where 22yrs ago. No wonder why it never stops. And if your in the present today that your husband still cheats, of course you still feel the pain, because your still living with it.You allowed it. A man will get away with something as long as YOU allow it. If you try-ed everything in the book to make him happy and nothing has worked, HELLO, he not going to change dare. You allowed him to get away with it for 22yrs. If you truly want something to stop it starts by educating yourself. Dr. Laura C. Schlessinger has a really good talk show about family/relationships on 640am Mon-Fri 12noon-3pm southern ca time. If your not in CA go to her website Dr. Laura C. Schlessinger.com and find out in your area what radio show she comes on and she wrote some really good books. May be it will wake you up. That this man is not going to change and all your doing is wasting your life behind this man. Dr. Laura will give you the co-rage to do something. And prayer and God is your biggest helper.

2007-03-15 11:56:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

You can forgive and forget all of the pain. You just have to let it go. You can't forgive and forget b/c it has temporarily affected you. In some part of your brain, you don't want to forget and forgive the things your husband has put you through that way you don't get back together with him. It will eventually go away. But for now, you need to know how you felt about this. Again, it will all disappear sooner than later. I am guessing you will forgive and forget it in about.... less than 2 years. (Hopefully)

2007-03-15 07:07:21 · answer #3 · answered by girlsrulejenna 1 · 0 0

The truth is you never forget the pain. Once a cheater always a cheater. You live with it or move on. Live for your self.

2007-03-15 06:29:56 · answer #4 · answered by LDJ 5 · 0 0

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