Our one year anniversary is coming up & I'm at a loss of what to do. We've both been married before but he has never had a one year anniversary. He acts like the anniversary is no big deal. I just want him to realize how much he means to me and how our 1st anniversary IS a big deal to me. We have a 4 month old son thrown into the mix too, so we've been tired and romance has been a little scarce. But don't get me wrong we're happy in our marriage and with our child.
Here's another thing, money is tight right now, we're moving the week after our anniversary, & we're starting a business, so tension is already high and we're watching every penny. When I asked him if we could do gifts, he said he wasn't sure. When I asked him point blank what he'd like to do he said "maybe just go out for dinner".
I guess my question is: How can I make him realize that our anniversary means something to me, & that it should to him? Also what gift should I get him with out having much $$$ to spend?
Thnx
2007-03-15 06:17:31 · 3 answers · asked by JennieDee 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Get him a nice card, find a babysitter, and go out to dinner together. With all the pressures you just described, I'm not sure what you expect you two to do - go on a skiing trip? to Hawaii? Visit Europe? It's not *what* you do together, it's the doing it *together* part that should be meaningful to both of you. Consider this: perhaps the reason why he doesn't feel like the anniversary is a "big deal" is because every day with you feels like an "anniversary" to him. It sounds cheesy, I know... But this is exactly how I feel about my husband. We don't feel the need to make a big deal out of an anniversary or a Valentine's day - because, frankly, every day of our marriage is a special day.
2007-03-15 06:39:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, here's what you do for a no-cost gift.
The age-old suggestion for your first wedding anniversary gift is paper. Like you did when you were in grade school, get colorful construction paper, a photo of the two of you (one you especially like, maybe one from your wedding), some glitter, glue . . . get creative and proclaim your love for him all over again, handmade.
Or you can make him a book of coupons that he can use when he wants, like one for "I take care of our son while you go out with your buddies tonight", or "I get the oil changed in the car next time it is due", even 'I'll make your favorite dinner tonight". Only you know what he really wants, and they can be as explicit as you like (I did this for my husband one year for Valentine's Day with a coupon that promised him oral sex in the morning and a steak that night. Really? What more could any man ask for? Sex and steak)!
Enjoy your first anniversary. It is a milestone that says, 'Hey! We're here, and it's only a first of many. We worked really hard to get where we are this very moment'.
Good Luck!
2007-03-15 06:29:35 · answer #2 · answered by Lorese K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go out to dinner as planed, dont say a word but buy a small 9 inch cake, put 1 candle in it and when your rested from dinner bring it out, maybe even have your child there, young but surly part of the one year?...no big buck, no big deal for him but a cake and family for you
2007-03-15 06:33:20 · answer #3 · answered by bluelitttt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋