recently me and my best friend had sex
we tried this to fulfil our fantasies. The moment i beg him to lost control (role playing) of himself to "roughen" me up .. everything went haywire.. i felt i was rape/humiliated and fighting for my life never been so scared in my life ..he was totally a different person(like a beast).. i guess it was a major disaster.. and after the whole thing .. i cried and cried partly coz i was bleeding and felt so dirty.. i'm shocked that he even cried too .. i'm not sure if he's really crying ...
does it happen to any of u in any role playing thing.. why is fantasy so much different from reality..
2007-03-15 06:15:49 · 19 answers · asked by CT T 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i mean i just felt like i was rape or something.. i;'m not acusing anyone
2007-03-15 06:22:38 · update #1
You needed to have a STOP code word. A word that no matter what was going on, you would keep going unless you said that word.
What is not clear from your question is did you feel bad DURING or AFTER? If it's after, just chalk it up to a life experience. If it was during, you should have planned this a little better. Also chalk up to a life experience.
2007-03-15 06:26:13 · answer #1 · answered by Disco Stu 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's why it's called "fantasy". I tell EVERY one...once your make your "fantasy a reality"...well, you get it now. So sorry you found out by acting out a horrible fantasy thinking it'd be any diff than what it turned out to be. Being raped is NOT a good feeling unless your into bruising, bleeding, etc. In rape it's NOT the sex that turns the perp on but the violence.
Fantasy of a person "your sure would make your head spin" is another fantasy that kicks you in the azz. Keep the dreams just that...a fantasy. You'll not ever be disappointed that way.
I would recommend a therapist to get over what just happened to you. I definately couldn't tell a parent! They would FREAK...you tell anyone else it might "get out". Last thing y need is for this to come up in class or from the halls.
I made the mistake of thnking a "one night stand" would be fantastic. My own fantasy was MUCH better than reality as well. I cried all the way home! Very embarrassing! and I was 21!!! I learned a valuable lesson that night! Fantasy stays in my brain! I don't even tell any about mine. They might believe I'd like to "try one"...I don't!!!!
2007-03-15 13:31:38 · answer #2 · answered by HeavenlyAngel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You did say you were adults correct? Life isn't a fantasy. If you guys wanted to be together, why make up an excuse too do so. And why be mean about it. Besides I understood you to say you are best friends... and the role playing is for actors, which are only hurt in case of an accident.
2007-03-23 12:53:57 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen, role play is fun, but you have to know who you really are on the inside. i mean you need to have the mentality to go with your fantasy. When you role played, what happened was that instead of keeping your mind in the game, you got out of it during the act mentally so you were in reality while he was living the fantasy. and not to be mean but you can't blame him for that. So judging by the fact that he cried i guess he snapped out of the fantasy and realized you weren't in it anymore. so he does care about you. so now what you guys have to do is patch things up, and next time, make love instead just to warm up. ya know. then after you establish that trust you can take the next step to role play, but when you care about someone and this was a special person to you, you don't want to start off on role play. ya know?
2007-03-15 14:50:11 · answer #4 · answered by Lovely 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not refer to it as "rape" because that is a very strong word and not something to take lightly. If both of you agreed to do this then that is that. BUT, maybe you should take it as a lesson and just try to move on. Rely on eachother and talk it through. Hang in there. Don't get reality and fantasy mixed...they are very different. Consider pain and damage next time.
2007-03-21 18:59:46 · answer #5 · answered by K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two consenting adults? Role playing? Fantasies? Friend? Honey, you were not raped, you just wanted to back out, but you were too far into the game.
2007-03-15 13:30:07 · answer #6 · answered by marisia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no. I never had it go out of control...a lot of guys though, get so involved that might do. I am sorry for what happened, I hope you don't loose your friendship...that is hard to come by. And whatever you do, you must respect the privacy between you too and not have it all over the school...if you are still in school.
2007-03-23 12:09:29 · answer #7 · answered by Ariana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
best friend? why would you go do something like that? there is a reason why people go to the police when something like that happens in real life and unfortunately you had a taste of it. i assume that the friendship is over (if you are still talking to him). when i role play with my man, we do safe parts like nurse and doctor or lol stripper and client.
telll your friend to go into acting
2007-03-15 13:19:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry that happened to you but it sounds like you need to quit role playing or if you are going to then you need to try something that isn't so rough and that may hurt you.
2007-03-23 11:49:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you did ask him to stop and he didn't you should go to the police and make a statement.
This must have been really traumatic for you. You should tell a close friend, relative or councilor to let it out.
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2007-03-21 14:56:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋