How 2 make things better what can I say 2 him?

Question

my bf & I have been having problems all we do is fuss we were engaged but now we are not I really do Love him alot & I want 2 make thing better but he just says that he is confused & does not know what 2 do about our relationship right now any ideas or thoughts on what i should say or what u think he says that he really loves me & he has given up a lot 2 be with me I have 2 so what can I do?

Answer 1

seek some counseling or give him some space. Ain't nuthin like being up in someones face trying to solve problems when all they need is space. More than likely, if you keep pushing him, he's gonna leave. That's not to say that you should sit and wait for him to decide but give it some time. if too much time goes by, let him know that you guys need to make a decision or go your seperate ways. but counseling never hurts

Answer 2

Ideally, it would be better to specify the nature of those problems, the source of the conflicts, how he has sacrificed to be with you et cetera. In any case, the advice I'm about to dispense would be rather generic. I can only say that the key to working things out is COMMUNICATION. Stop the fussing and discuss the issues in a mature, objective manner. Do not resort to name-calling, as such acts tend to aggravate the matter to the point of no return. Identify the root cause of the conflicts (e.g. huge difference in personalities, problems with each other's extended family...), and see if the matter can be resolved within reasonable means. Outline why you love each other, and assess if the mutual love, if it exists, is strong enough to overcome the prevailing obstacles. Good luck!

Answer 3

My suggestion is to tell him your feelings about him and your relationship. If you need to write them down first do it. Feelings can change with your moods and you don’t want to forget anything. It’s obvious that you care for him but also disagree at times. That is healthy and normal. Be honest with yourself before sharing with him. Once that is done “the ball is in his court”. There is no one magic word or action that will fix the disagreements or make things better over night. But it sounds like you are communicating and that’s ½ the battle of sorting things out. Good Luck.

Answer 4

GIVE HIM A LITTLE TIME, BUT IF HE DOESNT MAKE UP HIS MIND ABOUT WHAT HE REALLY WANTS WITH YOU SOON THEN LET HIM GO. CAUSE IT COULD BE THAT HE IS NO LONGER IN LOVE WITH YOU... HE POBLABLY JUST WANT OUT AND DONT KNOW HOW TO TELL YOU... LOVING YOU AND BEEN IN LOVE WITH YOU ARE TWO DIFFERENT THINGS. AND IF HE GAVE UP ANYTHING FOR YOU THAT WAS HIS CHOICE... MAYBE TAKING SOMETIME AWAY FROM EACH OTHER CAN HELP... GOOD LUCK

Answer 5

Rent the movie The Last Kiss. The answer is in that movie. I am watching it right now for the 2nd time. What Jenna's dad tells her fiance is the advice that will work for you. Good luck!

Answer 6

He's having cold feet. It's perfectly common. Be supportive and CONFIDENT - act like you're worth being with and worthy of his respect - not arrogant, but worthy - then he will see this and he'll be confident his decision was the right one. If he doesn't, then be glad you're rid of him because it would've gone terribly wrong.

Answer 7

make it work. relationships are hard. try to talk about it, and one major thing is forget the little things. my boyfriend and i used to fight all the time, like so much is was ridiculous but then i started ignoring his dumb comments and he started letting my mood swings slip by and we have been so much better. everyone has little quirks that are annoying but try to ignore them. only argue over things that are worth ending the relationship over.