Ok here is the thing, I'm feeling really horrible for this and to even be asking about it but it is really bothering me and want to fix it....
I just got engaged 1 month ago and am in love with this guy he is the best thing ever and we have been through alot and are still going strong, we have been together for 4 years now.
Now since we've gotten engaged I have been dreaming of an ex of mine (7 years ago), (haven't been dreaming of him every night or anything but a few times) but I don't understand why. I never had this problem before, why now?
I feel like I'm betraying my finacee and I don't want to feel that way.
Please Help, should I feel bad like I do?
2007-03-15 05:47:26 · 7 answers · asked by Island Girl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
we cant control our dreams, some times our sub concious mind wanders when we are sleeping.. it is normal.. dont worry about anything..
2007-03-15 05:54:56 · answer #1 · answered by wongfiehung2003 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, stop feeling bad for having thoughts/dreams about an ex. Getting engaged and planning a wedding is a very stressful time and it will often evoke deep emotions and things that you thought you had buried.
The thing to know is that your fiance is in the here and now and your ex is in the past. If you keep reminding yourself this, you can keep a better perspective.
You can't really control your dreams, so don't be too concerned - but it should tell you that you're going through some stress and emotions right now - and you might have had a profound love for your ex that is being matched by your fiance - your brain can't tell the difference, so that's why you're dreaming about him.
Take care of you. I'm sure you've thought things through to know you're in love with your fiance and that you are right together. The feelings and thoughts from your dreams will fade away soon.
Good luck and congratulations on your engagement.
2007-03-15 13:01:46 · answer #2 · answered by headshrinker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget the ex and concentrate on what you have. Do you want to lose your fiance? Maybe you need to find out what true love really is and isn't. Read in the Bible I Corinthians 13 "The Love Chapter" where it says love is patient and kind and seeks not its own way at the expense of others. It isn't boastful or proud and always believes in the positive. This love is such that it will gladly give its own life to save the life of another. Its says of faith, hope and love that the greatest is love. It is this kind of love that has kept my wife and I married for over 28 years.
If you have this kind of love for your fiance, do you really want to risk losing it? On the other hand, if you don't have this kind of love for your fiance, do you really have it for your ex? I think not or your ex wouldn't be an ex. If you don't have this kind of love, you can develop it and I suggest that you do. Decide now. You can make a wise decision or make one you will regret the rest of your life. Only you know what is the right thing to do and you have to decide before you reach the point where you can't change things. I suggest that you carefully think about it all.
2007-03-15 13:01:16 · answer #3 · answered by Captain Cupcake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, you dont need to feel guilty or anything like that. Its perfectly normal to dream of past flames from now and on and specially when you move on a new level in your relationship. I dont know why it happens. Perhaps its God's way to remove whatever left over feelings we have for the ex... or he wants us to think about what failed in that relationship and telling us we can stop that in the current relationship... what I know is that lot many ppl get such dreams.... when I get one of such dream, i try to think why i got it.... and if there is something i feel i need to do in my current relationship to make things better, i do it.
You just got engaged.. that could have triggered it.
2007-03-15 12:56:08 · answer #4 · answered by Kiana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No dont feel bad,you cant control what you dream about,is it maybe because you just got engaged , in your subconscious you may have a fear of settling down etc,we all dream of other people,your not betraying anyone
2007-03-15 12:56:19 · answer #5 · answered by NATALIE W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a dream interpritation site you could go to. I think it's about letting go of the ex & insecurities you may hve w/ the new man. You are not wrong for dreaming. I miss my ex, but know it was never going to work, so I moved on. It's okay to think on the good times of your past.
2007-03-15 13:02:00 · answer #6 · answered by J Doe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
those are just dreams maybe it's the fear or reality of you getting married and being with one person for the rest of your life or maybe you still have some feelings for your ex but that's nothing to feel bad about your not seeing him for real
2007-03-15 12:57:14 · answer #7 · answered by lasondraperry-graham 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋