why cant i get pregnant?

Question

I have been trying with my husband for 12 months now i have been following ovulation calanders etc with no luck. is there something wrong with me? my hubby wont see a fertility doctor and i have not been able to get time off work. i am 23 and he is 23 also. its so frustrating bc we sooo want one. snyonr got sny advise on best positions for falling pregnant or old wives tales??

Answer 1

if your ovulation kit says you are ovulating then he needs to be checked. and has he done all the things he needs to do. which I bet he hasn't because men don't think they have to do anything. No smoking , wear boxers instead of briefs. sometimes meds can mess with it. If he is being a prick then you have to decided if you want a family or a man who cares for nothing but himself.

Answer 2

If you are using an ovulation calender that basis it's guess of ovulation on Day Counting, I highly recommend switching to charting your fertility signs. Even if you do ovulate on the day calculated by the ovulaton calender, there's NO guarantee that you are having adequate fertile cervical fluid, enough progesterone, or a long enough luteal phase (time between ovulation and the next period). Any of these can hold up conception or make carrying a pregnancy difficult and CANNOT be detected by Day Counting.

I have personally dealt w/ poor quality cervical fluid and short luteal phase. W/o charting, I don't know how I would ever have conceived! Taking a fertility drug like Clomid would almost certainly have made things worse for me and would have been unnecessary b/c I was ovulating regularly.

The conditions I've described can usually be fixed at home w/ natural remedies or nutrtional supplements very easiely. I highly recommend you chart for at least 3 months before seeing any kind of specialist. You may find it unnecessary b/c you might detect the problem at home (which may simply be improper timing of intercourse to YOUR fertile time).

For your husband. Ask him to take nutrtional supplments (a multivitamin for men and Vit C, E, Zinc and Selenium) to help his body produce healthier sperm. That's not to say he is causing the delay, but if there are any issues the vits can really work miracles sometimes. At the very least it will be healthier for him and any babies you two make. He should also switch from briefs to boxers if he isn't already wearing them. He should avoid hot tubs and sauna or spending long periods of time in hot, hot showers. No bike shorts either! If he smokes or drinks large amts of alcohol, he should quit smoking and cut way back on alcohol. The sperm produced now are generally going to be mature 3 months from now. So, what he did 3 months ago will be affecting now and changes now may take a couple-3 months to have an effect.

Even w/ the perfect cycle and positive health changes, it can still take some time to coneive a baby. As hard as it can be to wait, you have to be patient w/ yourselves. I know the agony of month after month after month of negative HPTs. Driving yourself crazy doesn't make the time go by any faster. Hang in there!

Some sources for charting your fertility: The books The Art of Natural Family Planning and Taking Charge of Your Fertility. The websites CCLI.org, Ovusoft.com, and Fertilityfriend.com

Answer 3

Maybe you should try getting a basal body thermometer and a basal chart and start charting temps every morning before you get out of bed, eating or drinking. After a few months you will be able to see if you are indeed ovulating, and it may be as simple as you missing the ovulation day. Especially since your egg is only fertile for 12 to 24 hours. So try temping you will know you have ovulated when temp rises at least .4 degrees and stays for at least 3 days! Hope this helped! Fertility Friend is a good online charting site try it! www.fertilityfriend.com

Answer 4

Most likely there is nothing wrong with you...you are young and if your family doesn't have any medical histories that should be of a concern for you then I wouldn't be too worried...sometimes when you want a baby soooo bad and you are STRESSING so much about the idea it affects your body and the more it becomes harder to have a baby. Try to relax and not think about it so much. If in two years of trying and still no luck...you can go seek the help of infertility doctors to try and see if there is anything going on...

If it makes you feel better...my husband and I didn't get pregnant till after 26 months of NOT CONTROLLING. We weren't stressing to get pregnant...we kind of just let it be...if it happens it happens...in the meantime we had fun...travelled, went on road trips...then 26 months later (2 yrs and 2 mos) I found out I was pregnant. There were times too I thought something must be wrong with me (or my husband) but sometimes things just happen in their own time =)

Answer 5

It's a little soon to worry about a fertility doctor. Most young men his age get offended about something like that because they think it makes them less 'manly'. You need to talk to your husband too; you don't need to run to a fertility specialist right now, but apparently he isn't wanting this baby as badly as you do if he won't cooperate with you. Sounds like you both have full schedules and some stress at the moment. You MUST go see your own doctor for a full pelvic exam and pap smear, and talk to him/her about any concerns. It took me over a year to get pregnant, and it didn't happen until we gave up and I went back to college. When we quit worrying and just enjoyed ourselves, it happened when we least expected it. You still have plenty of time; you didn't say how long you've been married. Relax and stop worrying about pregnancy; it's not like you are 35 and trying to conceive. Enjoy your husband; take a vacation!

You both need to understand; a baby is a total commitment, not to each other, but to the child. You can forget about sleep the first couple of months; clothes, furniture, doctor bills, all that mount up. I'm not trying to discourage you, but I am trying to tell you the reality of having a baby. You lose the freedom to drop everything and go out to eat at a nice restaurant, or run off for the weekend, or any of those spontaneous things you do now for the first few years.

So take your time, don't worry, and hang in there.

Answer 6

U r young and so u need worry much about it,anyway u should check your hormone levels it plays a vital role in conceiving and u can take folic acid tablets this helps in conceiving, r ur periods regular? if its regular that indicates u r ovaluting, counting from the first day of your periods, 11th day u start ovaluting ,u can check ur ovalution days using ovalution calculator available in various websites...for the position u ly down and keep ur legs straight up..also dont getup immediately after intercourse relax for sometime as the sperm will be alive for 1hr(not sure)...so dont hurry,relax,plan based on ur ovalution days ,Basal body thermometer also helps u in finding ur ovalution days ,cervical mucus indicates ovalution.

Answer 7

Have you seen a Gynocologist? IMy husband and I had the same problem. But after seeing my gyno- I discovered that I had ovarian cysts. But , after 6 months of medications and alot of hope, I am now pregnant! so- good luck!

Answer 8

you can get pregant 7 to 11 days after your period so try then and do dont every day it lowers the count of sperm try every other day it takes 24 to 48 hrs to build it up againand if you do it bent over it travels father and eat a lot of meat if you want a girl and slot of veggies if you want a boy hope this works i have to boys so i know this works my doctor told me so

Answer 9

it may be because of your husband and if he won't go to a fertility clinic and get checked out, then you will never know.

Answer 10

there could just be something wrong with one of you where you just cant have kids it could be him or you hence why people donate sperm or hire people to carry their babies!
or maybe you just have chronic pelvic pain-dysmenorhea-dyspareunia