I go to the gym on a regular basis, mostly to work out but I do enjoy the sight of healthy well maintained women. The curves are just wonderfull to look at. It doesn't hit me as a sexual desire, but more of a desire to see what work they have done with their bodies and to appreciate them as body sculptures. I do admire them and enjoy looking, it does please me. As best I can I try not to creep them out and I know for some this can be uncomfortable. Is it ok to look and appreciate? Is it ok to compliment them. My thoughts are as long as I respect them and conduct myself as a gentlement it should be OK. Is it OK for them to look at me as I have noticed. What is appropriate conduct in this arena. I want to meet healthy well taken care of, health conscience women my age. With the pressures and uncertainty of this world I don't want to add to anyones stress, especially in a place they go to relax and be healthy. Help? I would sincerely and truely appreciate an informed opinion.
2007-03-15 05:41:55 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
There are two diffrent ways men look at women. The weird, creepy, uncomfortable, i see you naked, want to screw, drulling mouth, kind of looks that get a guy knocked out and piss off women. Then there are the, sweet, you look nice, how are you?, slight smile, that women find flattering. I think you have the second look so don't worry about it you are all good.
2007-03-15 05:50:27 · answer #1 · answered by Sandy B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think BabeHeart put it best, you should chose her as best answer.
A lot of women are extremely self concious and that's why there are womens only gyms like curves and shapes... but there are also women who enjoy the male attention and have no interest in being part of a womens only gym. I kind of fall in to the latter category and I happen to have a better than average rear end (if I do say so myself) and I tend to wear things that accentuate that fact while working out lol so I really can't get too upset if I catch a guy looking. But at the same time, you need to be subtle about it, blatantly staring with your eyes bug eyed and your tounge wagging is not appreciated.
2007-03-15 13:06:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reactions will vary depending on the woman. Some go to gyms to be oogled as much (if not more) than to get fit...others are there for serious fitness/weightloss work and aren't keen on guys staring or trying to pick them up.
Like anywhere else, it's a gamble. Some women, no matter where they are, will take a compliment wrong or an invitation out as something improper and perverted...others will always be gracious and perhaps even be accepting of your interest...and then there are those that fall in between (their reaction will vary upon their mood).
2007-03-15 12:47:32 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all, kudos to you for working out, (I do it at home, Pilates, mixed with cardio and I've never felt or looked better) NOW, to answer your question, I, personally would get very offended if someone starred at me while working out, but I'm on the shy side, maybe it wouldn't phase other women. Also, I'm sure you're not alone in enjoying looking at women while they're working out, considering you're a man. Heck, I'm a woman and like looking at other attractive women ;-) My suggestion would be to not stare, a glance here and there should be fine, though.
P.S. Isn't that while all men go to the gym???? LOL (kidding)
2007-03-15 12:47:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Bro, this only turnes on "whores". Healthy women as you put it, find that to be a big turn off, and don't try to meet women at the gym. Find an activity or something more social. It creates an uncomfortable atmosphere for them, why else would there be so many womens gyms.
Kudos on the desire to respect them but I fear you have some little demons growing it would do you good to root out before they get comfortable in you. Comparing a woman to a sculpture is borderline objectifcation. I bet it creeps them out to read that.
Good luck bro.
2007-03-15 12:49:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I appreciate that you care enough to ask this question. Personally, when I go to the gym I don't want men fixing their eyes on me. Whatever their reasons, I feel they are "checking me out", and possibly trying to show me they are interested. But when a guy just stares at you forever it's obnoxious; it's like, say something or go away and leave me in peace.
Of course, it sounds like this is not your motive. Here's a better solution. If you are very interested in the female form and want to encourage a woman whom you feel is doing a good job sculpting her body--maybe you can become a trainer. I would welcome a man who had an interest in helping me sculpt my body because he felt I had potential. I would be expecting him to look at me/ watch me.
Sometimes when you go to a gym it's because you're not feeling that you are in your best shape, so eyes on your hips make you feel uncomfortable. Maybe you're not looking at my hips, but I think you are...and that's all that matters.
Now if you don't want to become a trainer, you can simply offer to help "spot" a woman who's trying to lift something. Just do it in a normal way, like you would for a guy: "Need me to spot you?" If she doesn't know what that means, just hold th weight for her, let her get situated and then let go and turn away. Slowly she might begin to realize you just want to help.
Anyway...it's nice that you have an encouraging spirit so don't stop being that way. Even in the gym, it's nice to have a gentleman around.
Best,
S
2007-03-15 12:58:19 · answer #6 · answered by Karibuboo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lots of them do because if they did not they would not go in front of those mirrors where everyone can look - they would not wear skin tight body suits so everyone will watch - they know that there will be wanted and unwanted attention for dressing like that - I find them to be a pain in the *** when I am trying to do a workout as it can effect my concentration but I can block them out and get a good workout in. Women like that area waste of time and the guys that stare waste their time
2007-03-15 12:48:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People have different reasons for going to gym, working out, meeting people, socialising. Some feel self-conscious when stared at, some go there for that reason - you'd soon be able to tell who likes what, but don't stare when they're obviously just working out. If they're looking at you, don't take it too much to heart - even while working out we all have to look somewhere.
2007-03-15 13:01:29 · answer #8 · answered by Unicornrider 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no...makes a woman uncomfortable if shez not really confident about her shape...shez there to work-out, not to be looked at by strangers.
2007-03-15 12:46:05 · answer #9 · answered by Legant 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
NO! annoying and makes me self conscious
2007-03-15 12:44:19 · answer #10 · answered by jenivive 6 · 1⤊ 3⤋