hi, i know this sounds silly and i should know this but....we've known eachother 12 years, married 7, have 2 kids, he works full time I'm a stay at home mom (for now) and I feel disconnected. He doesn't help around the house, doesn't clean toilets , doesn't do homework with the kids, doesn't play with them on weekends (more like babysits only), ALWAYS wakes up late, NEVER brings me breakfast (happens once a year). I know as a fact he loves his children to death and loves me as a good mom but I wish he would help more and even if he didn't help at all, i would probably be less resentful if he was always happy (like when i first met him) but he comes home after the kids are sleeping and it doesn't bother him that he doesn't see them. I feel lonely ALL of the time and he doesn't notice or doesn't care. Out of the blue he'll say very expressively how much he loves me and can't wait to go on vacation with the family and sometimes i feel like I'm just expecting too much. Thanks 4 listni
2007-03-15 05:41:32 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
My gut feeling is that he loves you, but you have drifted apart a little, you being busy with the house and kids and him with work.
Try doing a regularly scheduled date night, just the two of you, you can talk and reconnect.
Also, for yourself, join some mom's groups, get involved with church activities, don't be depending so much on him for adult company.
Please talk to him about what you need/ want him to do. don't expect him to read your mind about your feelings.
2007-03-15 05:57:57 · answer #1 · answered by growing inside 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not going through anything that is different from any other married couple. My wife gets on me about doing more chores. It's part of marriage to learn to share the responsibilities.
What you need is more open communication with him. The two of you need to talk more about what's going on in life. Sounds to me like he might be working a lot of hours to support the family. What's going on at work?
You don't need a new husband. Anyone that would say that is an idiot. The two of you love each other, you just need to work your way out of this little rut you're in.
2007-03-15 05:58:12 · answer #2 · answered by penhead72 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depend with the kind of work he do. Ifhe really loves you, he will care for you atleast during the weeked.
2007-03-15 06:03:05 · answer #3 · answered by Nicefriend 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmmmmmmmm
maybe time to get a new husband if he is being like that
get one who is really there for and loves you and does chores and pays attention
let him slack a little sometimes, treat him well, then expect him to do what needs to be done
2007-03-15 05:48:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
yes he loves you
2007-03-15 05:56:46 · answer #5 · answered by zoomboy16 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋