I dumped my man after I realized it wasn't going anywhere
About a month after which I began dating someone new. I found out recently that my ex had been cheating on me while I was with him.
Ever since then, I began worrying that this was going to happen again. Ladies and even men, if you have had your heart broken, you know the pain that comes with heartbreak due to betrayal.
Last night my man confessed that he “thought” about taking a break with us earlier last week because we were fighting but he is determined to rather ride it out with me.
I began crying and I just couldn’t turn it off.. I have been with my new man for about 6 months. So why last night I couldn’t turn off the waterworks and I know it's partly to do with my fear of getting cheated on again. I am afraid this will happen again...
This is the first time he seen me cry and I don't want to depress him although he was very supportive. Any opinion on how to release these qualms?
2007-03-15 05:22:57 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You need to think of why he is thinking of taking a break. First of all why are the two of you fighting??? Is the fighting due to you wondering what he is doing, where he is going, who he is with? Wondering all the time if he is with another woman? If so that is only going to make it worse. That will only make it worse.
You need to be confident in your relationship that he will not stray and try to connect / talk more with him.
Remember not every man is like your ex.
2007-03-15 05:38:47 · answer #1 · answered by kat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
our hearts are glass, once the glass has been weakened it doesn't take much for it to break.
Time can heal the pain and repair the chips, cracks and breaks.
I wouldn't have a relationship for awhile because you do need this time to heal.
You are not over the man who cheated on you yet. And you already begun a new realtionship of 6 months and now your being hurt again. Honey, don't put yourself through emotional rolercosters. If someone is going to "ride it out" doesn't really sound that positive. Maybe a break would be best so you can rid your heart and mind of all the insecurites you have.
2007-03-15 12:40:39 · answer #2 · answered by 2shay 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can only give a mans... well my point of view... Your best off being upfrount and honest and explain what your feeling... Some of it could be from the person cheating and some of it could be fear of being on your own, But if your honest with him and say that things have happened in the past and that's why your like this.. If he is any decent person he will not mined but remember men only under stand direct message they don't do mind games as most don't understand them.. As I said this is only my view point and I am no expert but it may help a bit.
2007-03-15 12:41:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh hun im right with you the only way to keep a man from cheating is..... well you cant
if a man is going to cheat then you cant do anything about if but there are good guys out there that wont cheat
tell him how you feel and what happened to you and i cry in the shower or when i am alone it is really healty to cry i dont like to cyr in front of people either but the fact that he was supportive was a good sign that he is a good one and you have to let go of the fear and trust if you get hurt you get hurt but you still have to trust
2007-03-15 12:31:50 · answer #4 · answered by carmelfude2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I have been in the same situation and of course you are going to be scared since your ex cheating on you. Everyone who has been cheated on has trust issues and it is very hard to let them go. My advice for you is to talk it over with your current boyfriend and tell him how you have been feeling and if that doesn't work you need to really think if you want to be in a relationship right now. If you are not ready for nothing serious wait because remember good things happen to those who wait! Everything is going to be ok and plus there are plenty of guys who are going through what you are going through....
2007-03-15 12:30:33 · answer #5 · answered by Pink 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl I know what you mean, i've had my heart broken once, and trust me it was not a nice feeling. I felt as if i wanted to crawl under a rock and just die. I have a new love now for 2 yrs. and even though i know he's faithful when we have small arguments sometimes i cry alot extra because i remember the pain i went through. Dont worry.If you two were maant to be together, it will be. Enjoy your day :-)
2007-03-15 12:35:32 · answer #6 · answered by lopinotsexyreds 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you are lucky that your bf wants to work things out instead of a break or breaking up with you. Maybe you can explain to him about your past and he will be more understanding about why you were crying. The fact that he is putting that effort means a lot so don't worry too much. Good Luck.
2007-03-15 12:30:25 · answer #7 · answered by tai&amc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is a risk. But it can be well worth it only time will tell. Don't let your fears get in the way of a great love. Take it day by day, you will be fine.
2007-03-15 12:29:22 · answer #8 · answered by Luna 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was with this guy for two year he cheat on me , this was like 7 years ago and i still can get ever it. after a guy cheats on you it hard to get over it then you just cant trust no one else but try to be happy.
2007-03-15 12:29:45 · answer #9 · answered by golondris_1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about crying. That is a natural emotion and it is good to cry sometimes. In fact, any time you cry it usually helps you....I don't think you will depress him if you let him know the reason you are crying.
2007-03-15 12:28:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋