my husband cheated on me when we were only boyfriend and girlfriend, i was stupid enough to forgive him, i guess i believe in second chances. now were married and everything was going good, but just recently he's been acting weird....ex: he erases all his calls, goes outside to use the fon, gets mad wen i ask him who called, and he is always on the computer chattin, is he cheatin on me again or am i just to paranoid.
2007-03-15 05:22:06 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He is certainly hiding something or someone.
Forgive yourself for giving him another chance. All of us mess up and some of us are sincere when we apologize and we don't do the same thing twice. Some of us do it again. I'm sorry that yours is one that did it again. But that's about him, not you. Love and forgiveness are not stupid. They just don't always turn out the way we hope. You took a chance - it's okay. If we don't take chances that is when we sit back later and say "I wish I would have", etc. At least you know.
You will be okay.
2007-03-15 05:28:15 · answer #1 · answered by Stefka 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well you said it yourself " I was stupid enough to forgive him, I guess I believe in second chances." Considering he did cheat before you were married, I would say it is essential to check up on him to make sure he is not doing it again. But at the same time, if you really did forgive him for cheating in the past, why are you paranoid he is doing it again? Chances are he probably is (and i am not trying to be rude) but I believe when you are with the "one" cheating is not an option and also that once a cheater always a cheater. So yes, I would investigate the situation, so you can have some peace of mind.
2007-03-15 05:29:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hmmmm I tell yuh! Men are somethign else. Can a Lepoard change its spots... not so easy. Girl I have a bad feeling about this. you have to find away to catch him. Pick up the other house phone when he goes out side. If its his cell look at the bill that usually has on all the numbers dialled and called if you dont know the number call wait to see who answers and hang up ( block your number of course). You have got to find a way to prove that that is what he is doing. Good Luck.
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2007-03-15 05:46:53 · answer #3 · answered by Joyann R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HE is cheating.......you were an idiot to have forgiven him when he cheated on you before you got maried. HAven't you heard of the phrase once acheater always a cheater? there's a good reason why people say it. We show people how to treat us. BY forgiving him you were basically telling him that it was ok to cheat on you. And all he had to do was apologize, and you'll forgive him. You should have cut all losess with him the first time. Sure it would have hurt like hell in the begining, but you wouldn't be in this situation right now.
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2007-03-15 05:31:15 · answer #4 · answered by Ghanaian Princess 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Very suspicious, I hate to say it but it does sound like he's cheating. You have every right to question his behavior given his history and given the fact that you are his wife. The fact that he's getting angry at you about it is even more suspicious. You should have a serious talk with him about it and I would also suggest marriage counseling.
2007-03-15 05:32:06 · answer #5 · answered by Vivita 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-30 23:19:13 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you know the answer to your question. being secretive like that is a sure sign of infertility. There is software out there that you can install and it will monitor every email and IM and then email it to you......to your secretive email account....just make sure that your acct. that you choose to use.....don't stay logged in on it.....or it will pop up about you having email....and he may check it. cave and make a few copies of the emails and IM's then show it to him when the time is right.....you will need enough proof if follow through with a divorce.
2007-03-15 05:33:32 · answer #7 · answered by mrs_endless 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
sounds to me like the signs are all there, and why would he get mad when you ask who is on the phone? trust yourself you know the answer. the proof is in front of you. remember you are not the one with the problem he is.
2007-03-15 05:37:28 · answer #8 · answered by sassy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me personally, I would talk to my husband about how much it upsets me the things that he is doing and go from there. Good Luck
2007-03-15 05:27:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thank god cell phone bills list all numbers. And you can trace everything he does on the computer. Sounds like he's cheating.
2007-03-15 05:36:48 · answer #10 · answered by FaerieWhings 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋