Do you think it is better for a Same Sex Couple to raise a child?

Question

That is of thier own sex or does it matter?

I have a friend who is a lesbian had a child through Artificial Insemination and he has been raised as a child of priviledge HOWEVER he is now 15 yrs and he always is being asked by his friends *So where's your dad? at every school sport event
when dads are present he hasn't one, this has caused alot of problems for the Mother as he tells her how selfish she was for intentionally denying him a dad.. He wishes he was never born.
Your thoughts?

Answer 1

To be honest, I think a child should have both a father and a mother. I have seen instances where that is not the case and a child can grow up just fine but I think if there is a choice, then they should have both father and mother.


ceerist! what's with all the thumbs down. wouldn't you like to have a mother and a father. i mean having two moms or two dads is allright but dont you think its better to have one of both. you guys are so damn militant, no wonder we get so much flack.

Answer 2

I'm not sure I understand your question. In your opening you speak of a couple, but in the text you speak only of the mother. Is the youth in question being raised by a single mother or a couple? A two parent family is better, I was a single father, and I often think I wouldn't have managed without strong support from my family. It sounds like there were communication problems when he was growing up, I've known a number of people raised by same sex couples and I've never encountered the attitude you describe. One thing I will say, if he, in fact, wishes he had never been born, she needs to get him into counseling at once, in a worst case scenario, that kind of thinking can lead to suicidal depression.

Answer 3

As far as wishing he was never born, God didn't breath the breath of life in him for nothing. Maybe he is to be the #1 supporter of preventing other children from having to go through this. He can make something positive out of this and his mother could help.God didn't provide us with children to anyone who wanted them. He presented us with a relationship union of a man and woman to populate the earth. If he had intended for one or the other to do so, he would have made that so. Man is the one who has misused the knowledge God has provided for us and made it possible for people to abuse the meaning of parents. Your friend is probably a good person, but I would have to agree with her son that it was a very selfish act on her part to think she could raise a child and decide a father was not necessary. That is a type of abuse to me. God made the family unit and man has grossly manipulated it for self gratification. I realize this seems harsh, I am totally doing what is good for children no matter how the adult feels and at the same time the parents are the in charge and are responsible for doing what is right, not what they want.

Answer 4

best case scenario. mom and dad. and it is not that an alternative household can't it is just that it puts so much pressure on the kids. kids are mean to each other. they say and do mean things. divorced families too. he may be displacing his anger about this i.e. grades, social structures and so on. both parents provide something the other can not offer. kids see things differently than adults. they know when things are not "normal" and people of same sex relationships have a huge disadvantage when trying to deal with this on several levels. bottom line though, it sounds as if he may be acting just like her. selfish. he could be in the same baot in a traditional family unit if mom or dad leaves. he should find some activities where he may be able to find what he is looking for. maybe big brother, ymca or something along those lines.

Answer 5

That is precisely my argument against women deliberately creating a child with no intention of having a man in his/her life (as opposed to adopting a child who already exists). It's the height of self-centeredness and feminism run amok.

At the same time, 15 is the age of both rebellion and a desperate need to fit in, and quite a few of them say they wish they'd never been born, even with a natural mother and father in the picture.

The easy solution for him is to say his dad is dead. No one would ever question that. And many, many of his friends don't have their own father's in the picture, I'm sure, and he's just being self-conscious about his situation feeling he's the only one without a dad. He needs to focus on that reality for his own mental well-being.

Answer 6

I don't think it matters that she's a lesbian in this situation. There are plenty of straight women who do the same thing. Or they get pregnant and the guy takes off and they have to raise the child on their own. He needs to just be honest with everyone and honest with himself... he doesn't have a dad, but he has a mom that loves him. As long as there's one loving parent, it shouldn't matter.

Answer 7

He would have those same questions if his STRAIGHT mother was artificially inseminated.
Yr additional details are not that relevant to yr question.
My answer... it isn't a matter of being "better" but a same sex couple can be a great parent(s) and hv happy children.
Yr friend has self esteem issues and probably missing a male figure in his life... no uncles... no older cousins...

Answer 8

Sounds like this kid is an ungrateful, spoiled brat!

That has nothing to do with the sexuality of the parent, but the parenting style used to raise, or in this case, not raise the child.

I've seen this exact same behavior from kids of "traditional" natural birth parents, adoptive parents, single parents, divorced/remarried parents...
It doesn't matter what sexuality or gender make up of the parents, but HOW the parents do their JOB!

You mentioned that the kid was raised as a child of Priveledge, that right there tells me the child was SPOILED ROTTEN!

It doesn't matter what sex, sexuality, gender or gender identity of the parent....a bad parent is a bad parent...a spoiled child is a spoiled child.

Answer 9

As a son and brother there have been issues i mandatory from my mom to boot as a father. i become continuously unsleeping of what i might lack if the two weren't there. Plus as a newborn i become instilled in plenty alongside with values, morality etc. I only experience there may well be a shortage with the two one determine or 2 of a similar intercourse. to no longer point out peer issues this might reason and if a reaction may well be to maintain it secret to a newborn's acquaintances than this is a optimistic sign of no longer being very kosher.

Answer 10

I really think that it mostly depends on each individual child. If any child has nurturing people around them, then the child with grow up to be the best possible person he/she will be. This doesn't matter what the sexes are of the nurturing people... The child comes in with a plan of his/her own. It is only our duty to provide the best loving environment for the child to learn and grow in.

Answer 11

It is good for a child to have a mother and a father both...But I would'nt say that it is bad for same sex people to raise a child. There are many reasons behind it. If one lives in a society that is very accepting to these relations, they should go for it.