I am an awful cleaner. I cant motivate myself to clean really. But when I do clean I clean like a deamon. My husbad keeps throwing it in myface that my house is never fully clean theres almost allways dishes. To a certain extent I am lazy. I dont know how to change it. He allways says he wants a wife that will cook clean and take care of him and the baby. He basically says Im a bad wife. It really hurts. I have a 4 month year old son. Its not like my house is discustingly dirty theres never dirty diapers anywhere or anything. And he never wants to help me. The only thing I ask him to do is clean up the dog poop. But he says when you go to work and pay the bills he will. I feel so bad about myself. It only makes me more depressed and to the point where I dont do anything really. I dont know what to do. I guess Im not what he wants.
2007-03-15 05:16:08 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are doing a great job! Having a newborn is not easy and if you are doing all of that you are doing an awesome job. Leave him home with the baby for a day and he will quickly realize what a job it is to take care of a baby and a house. He sounds very selfish and maybe you all could sit down and talk about it and if that does not work seek a marriage counselor to help you. Try not to get depressed, pray and ask God to step in and fix this situation and if you trust Him things will change for the better!
2007-03-15 05:32:52 · answer #1 · answered by Moni B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you already are depressed. Fight it! You need to just get yourself up and do what you need to do and find something outside of your family that will keep your mind stimulated and make you feel like you have a purpose. When we have just given birth, our bodies go through alot of changes--Physically, Mentally, and Emotionally--You need to make a list of things that you need to do. Stick to them for 1 month and see if this helps you. Also, check and see how long it takes you to do these things. Then you can get an idea of how much time you have available to do some other things. Maybe even invite a friend over for lunch/coffee....You need to get out of your "rut". Quit focusing on your husband and what you think he is feeling. We never know what our spouse is feeling and then we get all caught up in "thinking" we know and it always leads to assumptions and trouble. Men never know quite how to help or talk to us when we are emotional and they don't know what it's like to give birth. Start focusing on you and what will make you happy and when you are happy, you will have a happy home for you, your husband and most of all your baby. If you can focus on giving your child a happy mom--the rest will fall into place. Just know that you are not the first to go through this and you need to get up and start today. Start living!!
2007-03-15 12:42:14 · answer #2 · answered by kymmy_kins 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him try taking care of the baby house work and a dog tell him if he can't be quiet and help he can leave
2007-03-18 21:37:43 · answer #3 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋