2007-03-15 05:04:59 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No. You have a need for affection and attention (but you should be able to control it). Telling him will do nothing more than cause problems. He should have considered the possible consequences of a lonely wife before he ended up where he is. Guilt is the consequence YOU have to pay. Telling him only eases YOUR conscious and accomplishes nothing. If you love him, you won't want to hurt him. He has too much time to think about it, it will eat at him, cause accusations and arguments, and it will end up ruining any quality time you have visiting with him. You also have time to figure out how to handle it IF he finds out about it when he gets out. I really wouldn't make a habit of having affairs. You are endangering yourself, your lover, and your marriage.
2007-03-15 05:42:20 · answer #1 · answered by Mama_Kat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO hes in prison and doesnt need that in his head in a place like that. He could end up doing something stupid and get himself hurt. If you dont intend to carry the affair on just let it go and it is your own cross to bear. But if you are going to continue youll have to tell him somehow and live with the consequences.
2007-03-15 12:12:03 · answer #2 · answered by sugar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lets see here, a husband in prison being told by his wife she had an affair. Sounds like a suicide note to me.
2007-03-15 12:17:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should. He is having an affair in prison, although it is not consensual. Every night he is bent over his bunk bed with his pants pulled down to his ankles to be some black brotha's girlfriend.
2007-03-15 12:55:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe you should always be honest to your life partner. I don't know if it is better to wait till he gets out, or tell him now. Plan on the worst scenerio if u tell him while he is in prison. He can still file for divorce. My brother is in prison and his wife cheated on him 2 weeks after he went in. She has since abandoned her child, is pregnant with another mans baby, and they are getting a divorce. I would tell him now, because if he gets out and you tell him he will be even more angry.
2007-03-15 12:10:43 · answer #5 · answered by shelly63795 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends... is he getting out any time soon? Are any of his friends getting out soon? I'd err on the side of caution and say "No" unless he's in for defrauding stockholders or making illegal campaign contributions to Hillary Clinton.
2007-03-15 12:08:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Come one now.....he's already locked up and that is bad enough.....no need to go pouring salt in an open wound by telling him you did someone else.
Why would you want to make his stay harder? Tell him when he gets out so he can do something about it.
2007-03-15 12:20:21 · answer #7 · answered by RedEye 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably assumes you are anyway and is just trying not to think about it. How long has he been in and how much longer does he have? Did you guys discuss these things before he went in?
2007-03-15 12:09:01 · answer #8 · answered by A B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No why would you want to do that, unless it will bug you forever until you tell him or unless the guy will tell him. I would keep it to myself unless I felt compelled to tell him. Is your marriage strong or on the sand? if its strong tell him I think he might understand since he is where he is. If its on the sand then this might sink your ship.
2007-03-15 12:23:48 · answer #9 · answered by Joyann R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, not unless you wanna get killed or worse. I don't know what he's in prison for but I wouldn't risk it.
2007-03-15 12:27:10 · answer #10 · answered by Vivita 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋