When you are young a child will say things Like I want to Marry my mom or dad when I get big or kids will say I hate girls or I hate boys and feel more comfortable with thier own sex.
During puberty when hormones are going goofy and causing a tremendous amount of sexual emotions in a person I assume that is when they engage in experimentation with themselves as well as other people, is it your opinion at this time is when they can actually say what thier *True Sexual Orientation* is?
Isn't it the intimate acts (Not trying to be crude here) that determines what your orientation is? If you think your Gay but after an intimate situation with another person of your own sex, you find out that you did not enjoy or like it, wouldn't that be enough to say I guess I'm heterosexual? and vice versa regarding a person thinking they were hetersexual but the encounter with the oppsoite sex was not enjoyable or comfortable..I ask this because some peopel say I knew I was
gay at 5 yrs?
2007-03-15 04:54:52 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I was attracted to boys when I was really young, but so were kids that turned out straight, so you can't really go by that. All children are naturally homosexual, preferring to be with members of their own sex. During puberty, everything and everyone tends to turn them on (I call it ambisexuality). It's during adolescence, when their socialization starts to solidify that actual sexual orientation can start to be taken seriously.
You can be gay and just not do anything about it--even if you never have sex, you still are who you are and are attracted to who you are attracted to. Just like having sex with someone doesn't necessarily mean you're gay or straight. And I don't have to have had intercourse to know that I don't want it. I also don't have to be poked in the eye with a sharp stick to know that I don't want that, either.
2007-03-15 05:15:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sexual Orientation refers to emotional, sexual, romantic, and affectional attraction. It runs the range from exclusive hetero-sexual (quite rare) through various degrees of bisexuality to exclusive homo-sexuality (also quite rare). The Kinsy scale defines this quite clearly. It is clearly distinguished from sexual activity because what you do physically can be radically different from what you intrisically want to do. Many closeted gays make a great effort to live a hetero lifestyle, even to the point of marriage and fathering children, but it doesn't change their fundamental orientation, since they would vastly prefer to be with a man, they are still gay. Many researchers believe that you orientation is established well before puberty, C.A. Tripp in "The Homosexual Matrix" put it as low as four. If, as many-including myself-belive, it is largely genetic, then the orientation is often established in the womb. As to that whole young kids prefer their own gender thing, I never went though such a period, I've always enjoyed the company of like minded people of whatever sex, and as a parent I observed much the same behavior in my daughter and her friends.
2007-03-15 13:34:50 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A person can be gay without ever having sex with someone of the same sex. They may be attracted to the same sex, but because they fear being rejected by society or their parents, friends, etc. they will date and maybe even marry someone of the opposite sex. That doesn't mean that they do no have the orientation of being gay, just that they chose not to act on it. I believe that we are born the way we are, we are attracted to who we are attracted to. Some people feel comfortable enough to just be who they are, and others do not. That is the only "choice" about being gay or straight. Whether or not to admit to yourself and everyone else who you are.
2007-03-15 13:19:42 · answer #3 · answered by jjspike 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sexual orientation combines everything from love, sexual activity, romance, and companionship.
some people crave sexual activity with men, yet desire love and romance and commitment from females. everyone is going to be different.
sexual experimentation doesn't prove orientation, but certainly can help relieve confusions. bottom line, there is more to sexual orientation than sexual activity..
experimenting with men or women won't prove anything other than the fact that you are an adventurious person.
orientation can only be discovered once you have had the chance to assess your feelings about sex, love, and committment.
2007-03-15 15:40:12 · answer #4 · answered by Jeff 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it immediately says your gay or straight. I just believe it means you respect or desire qualities in the person whom you may find sexually attractive. People with high sex appeal attract attention from the opposite or same sex. Doesn't necessarily means they are going to act on it.
2007-03-15 11:59:56 · answer #5 · answered by Some Random Guy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looking back...I "remember" those odd feelings I had looking at pictures of my older sister's half-naked boyfriends. I was 8-9 years old. I even got aroused. I remember it. Years later when I figured out I was gay...I finally understood WHY I was getting aroused while looking at "boys". I hope this helps.
2007-03-15 12:01:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no that is lust.. orientation is getting to know a persons inside and out!!!!!!!!!!
2007-03-15 12:04:27 · answer #7 · answered by Diane A 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it does not matter there should not be any queers or dickes thats why i think i am going to kill myself
2007-03-15 12:01:15 · answer #8 · answered by cooldude69 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋