I have been married for 5yrs and our was the love marriage,we know eachother since we were in the school.Few days before i read some msgs on my hubby's phone and these msgs are from some girl and it shows directly that they were in touch of eachother and when i talk to him over this he simply refuse and said that this girl always send sms and sometimes calls him and he had no interset in her but when i ask him to call that girl in front of me through spk phone he don't do that and also erase that msgs which i read and now i live with his parents on other floor of our house and completely separte my life from him and till now he says he was not involved in this.Iwant to know then why he won't call that girl and erase his sms?
2007-03-15 04:48:28 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sounds like you dont trust him-i would just sit him down and tell him how you feel -he owes you an explanation
2007-03-23 03:45:00 · answer #1 · answered by baseballlover 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-14 19:49:38 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's cheating. If a man can't talk to a woman in front of you then he has something to hide. No ifs ands or buts about it.
If she were just a friend then he would not care if you heard their conversations or not. He would even call her or allow her to call him with you being there. And if you are going to spend your life without him, get a divorce. Don't just live apart from him and still be married. Let him move on and you do the same and get someone who will love and respect you and not cheat on you.
2007-03-22 08:47:55 · answer #3 · answered by kristin747 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband may have made a mistake in conducting this relationship with this person, but that doesn't mean your marriage can't be saved. You could both benefit from couples/marriage counseling. Why not try that before giving up on the last 5 years. He will have to earn back your trust and you both will have to work on your marriage, but it can be done if both people want to save it. Marriage is one of the hardest jobs you will ever have, but it can have the best benefits. Good luck and God Bless.
2007-03-15 04:54:13 · answer #4 · answered by tersey562 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because, you found out things you wasn't suppose to find out. Either the girl didn't know about you or he didn't have a chance to lie about the msgs. Men will lie even if you catch them between the woman's legs, butt naked. Why are you asking yourself a question you already know the answer to. Call the girl yourself and let him know that you are talking to her. Don't let it be known before hand. They will have time to lie. Make sure you tell her that he clams to not want anything to do with her. You will be surprise at what comes out when a female finds out he is denying her.
2007-03-20 00:12:23 · answer #5 · answered by Go GO Ressa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is obviously cheating. Until he is willing to commit to making the marriage work, I would just wait for the next step. Try to get definitive proof about what he is doing, even if you have to hire a private detective to document his infidelity. You may eventually need that documentation in court. See a divorce lawyer before things get to bad but only for your information, not involving him. In other words, don't threaten him with divorce (he still has a chance to end this affair, I think) but be informed about the legal procedure.
2007-03-22 05:19:29 · answer #6 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This about you, not him. You have to develop more regard for yourself. By demanding he call her by speakerphone etc., you are approaching it the wrong way. You need to tell him what is at stake. And what IS at stake? A person with appropriate self regard would be prepared to walk out of this situation with half the assets and start anew. The fact you can still love him and hope things will work out, as you appeared to be, is an indication you need to sit down and assess yourself. He, or your next significant other, will not love you until you love yourself.
2007-03-23 02:23:11 · answer #7 · answered by jackbutler5555 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you caught him red handed and he is simply not man enough to fess up.
Why would a married man be getting SMS's from another woman anyway ?
If she was family , friend or a co-worker then he should have no problem to let you in on his conversations or messages.
You should talk to a counselor for help with this one.
2007-03-22 09:54:42 · answer #8 · answered by makeda m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he is lying. If he won't call her in front of you, get rid of him.
Husbands are like buses, one comes by every 10 minutes. You can find another one, you don't have to spend the rest of your life alone.
2007-03-22 22:44:38 · answer #9 · answered by CAT LADY LOO 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like he is telling the whole truth. I would stand my ground and insist that your not coming back until he has made the call in your presense and also that he change his phone number. That is not fair to you and congratulations for being able to stand up for yourself.
2007-03-20 03:29:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably because he's having an affair with her. You need to move on with your life, Find somewhere else to live. I hope you guys don't have kids. This relationship sounds very unhealthy.
2007-03-22 08:05:32 · answer #11 · answered by Tree70 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋