they are right there jumping in the way telling their husbands exactly what they are doing wrong?? Do you think this could be one reason why these said husbands "don't help out??"
2007-03-15 04:48:25 · 6 answers · asked by no 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, that's something I had to learn, once we were married. He folded the laundry "wrong", he did the dishes "wrong" - finally he was smart enough and just confronted me on it - nicely, though, I have to give him that. I honestly wasn't aware that I was doing it - just assumed that my way was the right way. Well, if I wanted something done a certain way, I had to do it myself. If I wanted help, I would accept what and how it was offered. Glad he did it right away after we were married, because I was way more relaxed once my son was of an age where he wanted to help - and the teatowels he would fold at 3 years old weren't exactly square, but that's how they went in the linen closet!
2007-03-15 05:37:48 · answer #1 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not married (yet, at least) - but I make a point of thanking my boyfriend when he clears the table, etc, and if he's helping with other cleaning chores I'm careful about how I point out where I want things done differently - if I can't think of a positive way to say it, I just do that chore myself and get his help somewhere else. I have a good man who likes to do things for me, and I want to keep it that way!
I had to take a women's studies course at a college I went to, and they made us read a study on men and house-cleaning... the men complained that they never seemed to be able to get it right (their wives nagged and ended up just doing it again when the men were done) so why should they bother?
2007-03-15 04:59:02 · answer #2 · answered by Megs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes because they want to help but when they do they are told they are doing it wrong or they have no purpose so the women are complaining that the men are not helping out when they are causing it i have a aunt who does nothing around the house because even if she dosent like what her husband is doing she still gives him compliments and he is better off doing it again and she has no work as he likes getting compliments so he does everything he has to doto get them
2007-03-15 04:54:34 · answer #3 · answered by cutemarv 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so true. my bf bitches about getting no help with the kids but when ive seen him try to help out he gets" put the diaper on looser" "oh come on she cant wear that outfit" "your not vacuuming right" so he throws up his hands in frustration and gives up. Then she'll turn to me and say " see he never helps me". HOW DO YOU VACUUM INCORRECTLY?
2007-03-15 04:59:53 · answer #4 · answered by sugar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it should not surprise her since he know her husband for some time
probably before marring to him
know love him or live him
make your best choice
it your relationship not others
you have to slip whith him
2007-03-15 04:57:17 · answer #5 · answered by pedrosw2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is exactly why. my wife doesnt do that. ive got a good wife.
2007-03-15 04:52:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋