How do you select good friends from "toxic"?

Question

Did you ever break off a friendship and if you did - why did you feel you had to do it? What was the "deal-breaker"?

Answer 1

in the kind of world that we live in now, happiness seems to be a miracle once you found it... that's the "deal-breaker" ur talkin about... if ur not happy anymore with anyone or with anything that u have, let go of it! if ur happy, ur contented, ur satisfied, ur complete, its like being born again, refreshing!

Answer 2

The one time I broke off a friendship it was because I felt I was putting more (a lot more) into the friendship than my friend was. It was hard too, because we were best friends since grade school and we were each other's maid-of-honor and we were pregnant with our firstborns together. As we got older though, it just seemed to me that if I didn't call or write or send cards or in some way make the effort to sustain the friendship, we wouldn't ever see each other or talk to each other. It made me sad, but I realized that people change and sometimes life just gets too busy, so I backed off and the friendship stalled. For several years, we had no contact, but a few months ago, she called me out of the blue which made me happy so maybe we can renew our friendship again.

Answer 3

Take the time in the beginning of forming friendships to set your ground rules and deal breakers.

See how these people you are considering as friends treat others:

*Do they talk about other people? If they do it to them, it will eventually be YOUR turn to be the target.

*Do they lie to people to spare themselves the consequences of their actions? If they are habitual liars, how can you trust them?

*Do they respect their parents or are they always complaining about the family rules? If so, steer clear of them. People who don't obey the family rules eventually disregard societies rules and become lawbreakers.

*Do they perform well in school? If they have good study habits and are in general good students, they can have a positive effect on you! And you on them likewise if you are a good student!

*Do they show genuine care for the feelings of other people? If so, they will genuinely care and be there for you and you can reciprocate by being there for them.

The only times I have discarded what was once a thriving friendship was when trust was broken and lies replaced the truth to the point that it was not possible to believe them nor to trust them again. When people act dishonestly in ANY way, they are toxic to you and will hurt you.

Answer 4

I've broken off a friendship because the person who was supposed to be my friend was not there for me in a time of need. In addition she was flakey, lied a lot and was sometimes manipulative. She was what I would call a "toxic" friend because she was a taker and not a giver. A friendship cannot be one-sided.

Answer 5

selection of good friend depend on ur person - under d law of attraction of similar species. A friend in need is a friend in-deed. U select a good friend thru his/her behavior, words,character, choice, humour and his philosophies(religion,etc.). what's in u could attract him/her, things like beauty, tolerance,intelligent and others.It's like metal and magnet but not all that glitters is gold.
2) CHANGE is d deal breaker

Answer 6

Stay clear of the friends that always want to gossip around you. Those people are usually talkign about you behind your back. Those kind of people can't stop talking about others. It is like a disease. Keep that in mind. No matter what happens try to stay clear of those folks. It is best if you do that.

Answer 7

i neaver break a friendship
becoz i will be very carefull in selecting a good friend in starting