How do you get over being anti-social?

Answer 1

I make it work for me...

Why do I need to get over it?

Answer 2

I was once anti-social but i found a way to get around that. Your at a party and you see some people that look cool. They are talking and laughing, and you want to join the conversation. What do you do? First thing you should do is swallow your fear of not being liked and go over and say hello. You need to relize that its not everyone that will like you. some people will think your great and some will say you are boring or a jerk. Secondly, you must stop doughting yourself. Just force yourself to talk to people AND BE YOU. I cannot stress that last part. If you show who you are instead of what you think is accepted or cool then people will like you and you will feel more confident. Its all in that word 'Confidence'. Tomorow morning go to your mirrow and start smiling. Think of all the good thing you have done or that has happened to you. Once you start smiling try to keep smiling the whole day and then try to talk to people. The you will see the responce. Also listen to what people say. Do not watch there lips or look at something else, look their eyes and then respond accordingly. And remember, do not think everyone is judging you and do not judge yourself. Last but not least, get out of your house and do something outside. Go bowling, watch a movie, go to a spa, get a haircut, anything that puts you amoungst people and try to enjoy yourself. Nothing brings people together more than laughter.

Answer 3

It's no easy task, but you can definitely do it. Don't feel like you need to push too hard. If you force yourself to be unnaturally outgoing, you may come off as annoying. Start out slow. If you don't feel like you have much to say in a social situation, then you can at least smile. Smile a lot. Smiling is a huge help for how easy it is. And I'm not talking a big ****-eating grin. Just a pleasant look on your face. It lets people know that you aren't mad at them or anything. Put yourself in situations where you are around people, but don't feel like you have to be really loud to get noticed, even if it seems to get other people a lot of praise. Just be completely honest to your true nature. It could take you a really long time to become good friends with someone--it always does for me--but as long as you are being yourself, you won't have to worry about breaking your neck to keep relationships going once they start. Also, if you have any friends already, put yourself in situations where you are with an old friend as well as some new people, as friends tend to bring out our most likeable sides. If you don't have any friends yet, don't worry about that part.

Answer 4

First use the friends that your friends have. (if you have any friends) then work your way up from them. The more people you meet and like the better your chances of getting over your anti-socialism.

Answer 5

Antisocial is a personality disorder... It does not mean that you don't like people!

Antisocial is the new politically correct word they have found for psychopath personality.

You do not get over being antisocial. One of the symptoms is the lack of consciousness and inhibition. Antisocial don't know they are. They can't even consider being antisocial. They don't care about others, they only care about themselves. They are manipulative and cannot be trusted.

Antisocial personalities who are rehabilitated are not antisocial!!! The problem is that some psychiatrists tend to diagnose way too fast... Because by diagnosing, it gives them the justification they need to start a treatment.

So, as I way saying, you don't get over being antisocial! Antisocial personalities end up in jail, in psychiatric institutions, or at the morgue, unfortunately.

Answer 6

Begin to expose and be willing to try new things and getting out and socializing with people. Part of the problem with those who are anti social allow bad experiences to mar their chance at making friends or even having a relationship with someone.

Answer 7

By understanding that there is no such thing as anti social. Just because you are for or against something doesn't make you anti social. We are individual social beings and each has his own particular level of interaction whether it be very active in one way or another or less active one way or another. The word anti social is incorrect and means not social which is impossible.

Answer 8

Take your meds, Krasus. That may be the single most important thing.

Some people just need to be part of a group more than others do. I've never been a joiner, either, but I don't define that as anti-social.

Answer 9

Practice being social...get rid of the "anti".

Invite people over - friends/family.

Invite people out - friends/family.

Get into group social settings ballroom group lessons, gardening, archery, bowling league etc ...I don't know your interests.

Get interested in others ....some people are really fun to be around.

Answer 10

baby steps...literally. Take your situation one small improvement at a time. First of all, find out WHY you are antisocial---(phobic? chemical imbalance? Depression? or simply indifferent to people?) I am not a doctor, so don't know the exact lingo.

Such processes don't happen over night. Depending on the extent of your antisocial behaviour, you might need to seek therapy in an individual or maybe even group setting (support group type situation) to help you overcome this. I do believe that one person can accomplish ANYTHING if they put their mind to it.

1. Find out why you are antisocial?
2. Make a mental or an actual list of small ways that you can improve on this----do it daily, weekly, monthly--whatever feels right.

The first step in overcoming a problem is admitting that you have one.
You will be okay.
Good luck.

Answer 11

If you are saying how to get over being shy, then, force yourself to talk to others, no matter how awkward you may feel.
Talk to people that are in customer service about a product that interests you.
Learn something that you can talk about that may interest others, such as computers, even games, just remember the type of crowd, find their interests, dont talk about something they are not interested in.
Read the newspaper, keep up with what is going on, lots of older and educated people like talking about the news.
Lots of people talk about events, such as sports, objects, such as cars, the more you know, the better chance you can strike a conversation.
Talk about the future, think of positive things that would make things better for others.
Learn history, learn science, technology, biology. Talk about an animal you have, or a nice animal to take care of.
The more you communicate, the more skillful you become. Its just too bad that schools dont get people to use communication skills in class to be better prepared for life. Some people sit in the back of the class and never get out of their shell.
See ya, hope you can talk sometime just dont pass me up like the last time, bye