PLEASE PLEASE HELP ME!!! PLEASE I'm CRYING PLEASE!!!!?

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i know i wrote this before but I'm not crying. I can barley type I'm so upset! I hate this i don't know what to do!! I'm really sorry this is so long!!

Hello! My name is Jackie and I'm 18. I'm a senior in high school and i had posted this earlier on my sister's yahoo answer's name. I really needed help with something! I realized after i wrote it that they way i had written it was a bit immature so i will start over again. I apologize for the length of this.

I am graduating this year and i feel like this is the year i have found my "best friends" Lets call this person "friend 1" I found her true colors. Sadly enough there colors are black and not a pretty color like orange or green. I am looking for advice as to what i should do in this situation. I hope that someone will be able to help me understand what's going on. Thanks a million :-)

Person number one and i have known eachother now since the 4th grade. In the 7th grade her and another one of her best friends got into a really really big argument. Since then she has not invited me to any parties or anything. This year really drew the line for me.I wrote a bit of a "mean" note and was a bit immature about it stating how i felt. Stating that i felt she was more worried about popularity and her so called friends then to worry about if she is hurting people. See the reason i wrote this "note" on the internet was because she threw two BIG house parties. She told me to my face that was was having these parties but felt it was best if i did not come. She said she did not want any "drama" and that i do not know many of the people on the track team. I ran track myself for a year and we all know that was a lie. When i really asked her for the truth about the whole situation this was her response

"I told u the god d*mn reason... maybe i thought u'd be uncomfortable... i still remember during 4th grade at Julie's birthday part you were down in her basement CRYING because you fet like everyone hated ... well u know who came down there to see if you were okay... oh yea! that was ME!!!!!!!!! i tried to ******* help you... MAYBE i thought u'd be uncomfortable with the people at the party and i didn't want u to get upsest and start crying again... if u actually think of it... i was trying to help you! so i'm sorry if u think i hate you but i don't... you just take things the wrong way and your going to tell ME to grow up! wow.... let's just listen to again and see who should grow up and try and learn what people are trying to do to help you. and HELL people go behind my back all the time... that's life... it WILL happen so sorry.”

i then asked her for her "real" reason and she went on to tell me the following

alright u want the truth???? the truth is that i felt you were out of place and i didn't know if you would fit in with the people at my party... hell u dont' even KNOW any of my xc friends except for kat but that's one out of like 10. and my other friends i dont' know if u'r friends and that group of friends that i have we have the same exact people at our parties it's not like it's anything new all of their parties i'm mostly invited to and my party they are invited to so i'm sorry if i thought it would be weird. oh and that's the other thing i DIDN'T tell you that i was having a party because i didn't want to hurt u'r feelings but i should have known it would come out sooner or later... and how many times do i have to say sorry beacuse i will say that i am sorry i told you i was sorry like a hundred times so i don't know what you want me to say.”

i realized that what i had written about her on the internet was a bit "immature" and i apologized to her for it. But what i said i felt was not really "mean" just justifying how i felt. I realized i could have done it in a better manner and i wish i had.

I then asked her why she invited my best friend and not me! My best friend has no association with track and one of her parties had NOBODY from the track team at it. She told me it was because my other best friend "knew" the people
this is what she said to me today

well yea it hurt my feelings... and i don't think that you really cared... i quote "that's right... now i'm naming names and i don't give a **** right now... so **** you Ale**s." that sort of hurt me. and about prom you can always go... u'll find someone to sit with-you don't want to miss senior prom just beacuse of a seat... and i would have asked you to come but like i said before i didn't know how people would handle it and i didn't even know i was having a party until i came back from hawaii which was like sat and i decided to actually have one on monday and the party was on friday so it was a spur of the moment thing

.. and i'm sorry that you don't understand my actions but i don't know what to say. i didnt' know how the situation would turn out... and not just you... if you said that everything would be fine i'd be okay with that but i don't know what my other friends would be like. and yes it was mean for me to do that to you and i didn't realize it at the time but seriously i didn't want any drama or people's feelings to be hurt somehow because of it... yea ironic that i didn't invite you and i hurt u'r feelings when i was trying to do the complete opposite so i'm sorry too.

PLEASE HELP ME I WANT TO KNOW.....PLEASE I'M CRYING SO MUCH!!!

all i want to know is WOULD YOU BE FRIENDS WITH SOMEONE LIKE THAT?

and does it sound like she's making up excuses?

Answer 1

why is black not a pretty clour

Answer 2

Simple answer? No. More Complicated Answer? Don't just stop being friends with someone because they did a few stupid...VERY stupid things. Everyone does it and its just a matter of seeing whether things will change. It sounds like you two were really close and sometimes it happens that after years, people start to change (especially at that age) and you find out they're different than you though they were. Start to become more independent and have more confidence in yourself. If she says you didn't know anyone at that party, than the only thing you should be thinking about is your relationship with her. Start thinking about making your own group of friends and don't just be someone on the sidelines. Leave an impression, be the center of attention from time to time, and just start to realize who you yourself are. Its a point in your life where a lot of things are going to change and even though you don't want some of them too, it will be for the best. Stay strong, head up, and enjoy life. Take it from me, life is one big rollercoaster. You just have to make sure you're laughing on the way down and not getting scared!

Answer 3

Yes. Just got done, actually. My best friend since the age of 4 (I'm 20 now) died in September in a car crash. This will be the first Christmas in 16 years that we have not been together. I love and miss her soooo much. Been crying about it all afternoon until about 10 minutes ago.

Answer 4

SOUNDS LIKE SHE WANTS TO CREATE DRAMA NOT AVOID IT. SHES NOT A FRIEND IF SHE DOSNT INVITE YOU TO HER PARTIES. AND YOU DONT NEED HER- YOU NEED TO REALIZE THAT. BE MORE CONFIDENT AND DONT LET SOMEONE ELSE'S DRAMA AFFECT YOU. LIFE GOES ON AND THE HURT WILL PASS JUST STAY CALM AND CONFIDENT-- THATS WHAT PEOPLE NOTICE MORE THAN ANYTHING. I KNOW AT 18 YOU PROBABLY THINK THAT CLOTHES, MONEY AND "THE IN CROWD" ARE THE MOST IMPORTANT THINGS AROUND BUT YOU CAN RISE ABOVE ALL THAT AND JUST BE A GOOD PERSON FROM WITHIN AND LET ALL THIS STUFF ROLL OFF YOUR SHOULDERS. IT DOSNT MATTER WHO IS WRONG IN THIS SITUATION IT MATTERS HOW YOU LET IT AFFECT YOU. SHES NOT WORTH THE TROUBLE. LOOK UP THE DEFINITION IN A DICTIONARY OF "FRIENDSHIP" AND MAYBE SHARE IT WITH HER AND SHE WILL GET THE PICTURE.

Answer 5

Hi Jackie, ok sweetie,calm down xxx
If this girl was a friend, she would have invited you to the party, explained to you about the 'other' people and respected you enough to make your own decision on going.....All the screaming and bitching she is doing, is just her trying desperately to create a smoke screen to cover her tracks, she knows only too well that whats she's done is downright nasty & spiteful....She seems like she's only interested in 'bettering' herself.....Don't worry honey, people like her always get their dues....!!! In the meantime....don't waste anymore of your time or your emotions on her.....she's not worth it, be proud of yourself for knowing that she was in the wrong and that you are the better person.....sending you big hugs xxx

Answer 6

I just lost a friend AGAIN for like the fourth time this year. As you get older you make new friends and basically tell the old ones to **** off, Its a part of growing up. You grow up and apart. I only have one friend left from high school, all the rest are now just aquaintances. wish u the best. good luck.

Answer 7

in a way i have been in your situation i'm almost 18 will be in a month i have no friends bcuz of this kind of happenings i have been teased all my life judged to quikly and felt like a good for nothin low life just understand friends at this age are the worst thing you could have but aquaintances are cool they don't know much about you and thats the way it should be kept the best time to have friends is when your married Family friends the ones who get you out of bad relationships or steal your kids for the week end so you can relax se what i mean just try it friends at this age are backstabbers like the one you mentioned cruel harted and cold blooded forget her!

Answer 8

I really dont understand your questions, Friends come and go all your life, as you make choices as to which road to go down as you grow older, life has many twists and turns, I wouldnt worry too much about colors,

Answer 9

Why is BLACK not a pretty color.

Answer 10

dump the friend, move on, from what I understand, she is not a true friend.