I'm married now and have a beautiful baby, but I was at a friend's wedding last weekend and her groom was really good friend's with my first love. Well, of course he was there and it brought back all of these memories and I can't seem to get them out of my head. I have a great husband and I feel like such a horrible person for even thinking of my ex. I'm only 22 though and I dated my ex when I was 17 so it wasn't that long ago. I don't know if I was SO in love with him or if I'm just feeling this way because he was my first love and I would have done anything for him. Anyone else experience this? Oh, and if my husband knew I even had one thought of him he would be so angry and probably tell me to take a hike!
2007-03-15 04:08:01 · 7 answers · asked by Mommy of 2 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Don't be so hard on yourself. They're just thoughts. If you're thinking about calling or seeing him, then there's a problem. Otherwise all you're doing is reflecting. Who doesn't remember their first love?
As far as your husband goes, it's easy...just don't tell him. Or anyone else for that matter.
2007-03-15 04:14:23 · answer #1 · answered by Maudie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry! we all think of our past loves at times and given the fact it was your first love its understandable. i think what we enjoy remembering is the feelings we felt at that age being in love for the first time and this can get mixed up with how you actually feel now. You have married with a baby and are happy that is what is important if you said you was unhappy then i would say we have a tendency to think the grass is greener on the other side but it is not always the case. I really think you are reliving fond memories a when you fell in love for the first time and its not so much about the man himself, time will move on and you will think of him less. Dont tell uour husband though we all have a right to our private thoughts and this is what these are.
2007-03-15 11:17:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's because it's your first love, and it's only memories. We can never forget the past, especially something like that. Don't feel ashamed of them, just remember you love your husband, too, and this is your life now. Don't stress out over it, and you don't have to tell your husband every thought in your head! They are YOUR thoughts and YOUR memories.
2007-03-15 11:13:03 · answer #3 · answered by bina64davis 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oops! I suggest you don't tell your husband! Maybe you do think of your first love because he was your first love. I think of an ex boyfriend I had (and yes I'm gay) and he was lovely. I don't have a partner at the moment. So maybe thats why I think of him.
2007-03-15 11:18:27 · answer #4 · answered by james c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure I think about an ex. Thoughts of your first love will be with you off and on for your whole life.
2007-03-15 11:15:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every once in awhile I think about him. He was my first love and first heartbreak. Although I love the man im with the last 4 years, i'll never forget my first love. i don't "love" him but i'll always care. Its normal to think about them once in awhile.
2007-03-15 11:30:03 · answer #6 · answered by AnnaG 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not really.
2007-03-15 11:12:23 · answer #7 · answered by runescape sucks 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋