i dont like peopel telling me what to do. if they´re my boss and theyre paying me, well its yes sir, yes ma´am, you bet! but if its a peer who tries to tell me to clean up the ktichen or something (when i dont consider it dirty), i think they shodul get off my back. if they think its not clean enough, they can clean ti themselves. when i do get the urge to clean (which yes, i do) , i just clean i dont check the fridge to see whose turn it is to clean. dear god so many rules and regulations! i´m living currently in a shared apt with a veterinarian and a pharmacy student, i cant stand sharing space with them, and i dont like their idea that the place has to be cleaned once a week! i wnat to move out and get some peace and quiet. what you think?
2007-03-15 04:07:06 · 5 answers · asked by lonesome me 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
It's hard to know what out of all the above you're actually asking, but here goes.
Doesn't sound like passive-aggressive, but I don't see why that matters.
Your roomies have the right to have their living space the way they like it.
What you need to do is find a place and get roomies who's ideas of "clean enough" are similar to yours. Then you'll all be happy together.
Either that, or live up to your roomie's standards while you live there.
They aren't telling you what to do to be control freaks, they want their home the way they like it, and you aren't living up to that.
Since you're in the minority, you're the one who needs to either change or leave.
This is a common source of trouble when strangers live together. A household is much better when all inhabitants want the same sorts of stuff -- cleanliness, noise, whether food is communal, etc.
No one set of standards is more correct, but they need to be agreed on by all, or everyone gets cranky with everyone else.
2007-03-15 05:43:14 · answer #1 · answered by tehabwa 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This seems to b mental depression & lack of co-ordination.
The actual problem is that u r taking this matter a bit too seriously. Sometimes in ur life, u will feel that u r getting more orders than u r ordering. This feeling occurs when u r a bit too bored with ur life & want to live alone freely. This problem may b boosted by the charecteristix of ur friends, but this is totally ur own desition of mind. If u feel that u need to loose them, this kind of thing comes to ur mind. May b u should understand their feelings & make them understand urs. This will help ur mental dipressions to reduce a lot.
2007-03-15 04:35:55 · answer #2 · answered by Areek Says 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Your freedom, by definition, is limited by freedom of others around you. The more freedom you have the less they do and vice versa. It seems like in your situation you might wanna consider finding your own place, unless you will see a virtue in beeing more humble.
2007-03-15 04:16:37 · answer #3 · answered by Kalistrat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would call it more "immature" than passive agressive. Maybe you should start checking to see when its your turn to clean up.
As for moving out, if you cannot afford your own place invest in a good pair of earplugs.
2007-03-15 04:14:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you need to have a sit down with your room mates to decide when and who does what. Otherwise it's time to move out.
2007-03-15 04:15:49 · answer #5 · answered by Jabberwock 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋