ok well my brother, i noticed he isn't into girls that much but he's only like 11 or something. but still , one day i saw on the history there was gay porn and stuff. this happened when i was in the hospital from a kidney damage for a couple weeks. he was the only one on the computer then... i didn't know if it was him for sure ... but one day i walked in to go on and i found he was on and he was blocking the screen and he ran upstairs and i got on... he had x'd everything but i noticed he forgot to x the windows movie player..... and yeah gay porn... is my brother gay"? and how should i ask him about it?!
2007-03-15 04:03:56 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Give the kid a break and leave him alone. Yes he is probably gay. No he is not emotionally ready to deal with it. You should consider discussing the issue with your parents if they have the capacity to deal with it rationally. Your parents need to get some filters on that computer. 11 year olds don't need to be looking at porn. Next thing you now, he will be cruising on myspace for guys and get himself in a really dangerous situation.
2007-03-15 04:17:08 · answer #1 · answered by floridaguy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him nicely but don't ask him straight on about the gay part. Just advice him (nicely) that he shouldn't be looking for porn in the net yet at his age. Explain to him the danger. Whatever you do, make it clear that your concern about the porn. Don't show any sign of concern that it is GAY porn.
If you do it right (you'll know when you see the trust in his eyes). He might ask you about the gay part himself. If he doesn't, you should respect it. Just make sure that you tell him that he can come to you, if he ever have any question about sex.
It could be that while he was browsing, gay porn pop-up to his face. (Biasalah tu kat Malaysia) For him, gay or not, porn is porn. Interested, he followed the link and got more. He is only eleven. Might not even reach puberty yet. At that age, almost nobody can be truely sure about their sexuality yet.
2007-03-17 07:36:53 · answer #2 · answered by Abang 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him a big boy hug, tell him you are there for him, he needs you man.... tell him it dont matter what he does, what he is, you will always love him & try to be his best, yaa, very best friend....
Try to talk about, say about a friend who got into trouble on the net, traped for sex or whatever, youll think of somthing im sure. The sad thing is boys & girls do get traped or fooled by people on the net...
Try your best to keep your brother safe, look after him please.
It does nt mater if hes gay at this point, its his safety.
No you should not ask him if hes gay, that will hurt him, by the way he is gay, hes not sure at the moment but the boy is gay.
There is so much info & other boy stuff on the net for 11 yr olds. If he was not gay he would be on game sites or whatever else he could be into, erm hes into boys.
All the best, David xxx P.S. www.boysunderattack.com is very safe for you & your brother.
2007-03-15 09:13:31 · answer #3 · answered by wowdavid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your brother is probably going to become a gay or bi man as an adult.
Treat this the same way you would if it were straight porn he's viewing and hiding. Don't judge him more harshly because his interest is gay stuff. Pressure now from a trusted brother could make him question himself, and at that age that could lead to something awful...
2007-03-15 04:31:11 · answer #4 · answered by Clarkie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Assuming this is on the level, NO, don't ask him about being gay.
What you CAN do is mention how you met a guy at school who is gay and that he's really cool and that you have no problem with gays. You're laying the groundwork for when he thinks he can come to you about his feelings. Without going overboard, always view homosexuality in a good way when he's around.
He's your brother and he needs you. And regardless if he is gay or straight, you need him.
2007-03-15 10:48:54 · answer #5 · answered by castle h 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 04:09:03 · answer #6 · answered by kosmoski 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself, how much do you love your brother? Would it matter if he was gay? I think that you should let him know that you are there if he ever needs to talk. But I wouldn't directly ask him. "coming out" is really hard to do, and I think you as brother should be there when he does. But I'm sorry to go on a tangent, but yes he probably is and I think that you should do some research and try your best to understand his situation. Good luck Buddy.
2007-03-15 04:20:40 · answer #7 · answered by Adam 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I'd advise you to take this on with a calm and positive attitude because you wouldn't want someone close to you to hate you. If he has been looking at gay porn it may be normal especially at his age. He is still exploring his sexuality or he maybe bi, but whatever he is, he is still human so be careful how you confront him.
2007-03-17 20:35:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is only 11...maybe out of curiousity or tat mayb his frens cld had make him make such a move..i mean watch porn all tat stuff..it is impossible for a 11 to know such things unless influenced by a peer..u beta b careful n take care of ur bro b4 its too late..once he turn gay he nvr go back!
2007-03-15 06:00:33 · answer #9 · answered by aw_farid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How is it that you don't know your borthers exact age "he is only like 11 or something..." ???? That baffles me!
If he is that young that fact that he is viewing porno of any kind also baffles me. I think I would be worried about that more than if he is gay or not....
I would also be worried because if he is on porno sites he might also be talking to people about sex who could intend to do him harm.
Worry about his safety, security & emotional maturity first THEN about his sexuality!
2007-03-15 04:38:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋