My husband has a great job but he works alot. I am not even joking when I say he works 95-100 hours a week. I understand that this is just a step for him to get to his goal, but I am afraid we are drifting. I dont want that!! We hardly ever see each other anymore and when we do it is just in passing...him going to bed or me rolling over when he gets in bed. He tells me he feels guilty that hes not home as much anymore and I try to tell him I understand.Last night he asked me if things were starting to feel wierd. They are, its like I have a boyfriend. What can I do? I dont want to loose him over this.
2007-03-15 03:49:08 · 11 answers · asked by Bad Answer Queen 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Stop telling him that you understand! Tell him that you need him, that you want him and that you love him. Tell him that nothing on earth is more important than having a solid marriage.
2007-03-15 03:53:57 · answer #1 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The next time he asks you don't just say you understand, be honest about your feelings and about your fear of losing him. It's good that he has a great job but he needs to get his priorities straight and right now his job is above everything else. There needs to be some balance. 95-100 hours a week is absolutely ridiculous, he needs to cut back if he wants things to be okay between you two. Remind him that when he's on his deathbed he's not going to look back on his life and say "I wish I'd worked more"
2007-03-15 04:41:52 · answer #2 · answered by Vivita 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well when he asked you about it feeling weird...instead of you saying you understand you should of told him the truth. Tell him how you really feel.. You are his wife and you have a right to tell him. After you tell him in a respectful way it's up to him to make changes. If he really loves you he will cut down on the hours...if he doesn't than you need to decide how you are going to make it work.
2007-03-15 03:54:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the major cause of affairs in women. Tell him that the money doesn't matter to you but time with him does. See where that takes you. But if you are more in love with the money than you are the man, then you're part of the problem. I'm not saying you are but either way, there are sacrifices to be made.
2007-03-15 03:55:34 · answer #4 · answered by Lilith 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No great job has employees working 95-100 hours a week.
I think you two need to talk about his work hours. Is he even honestly happy with them? Then he needs to talk to his boss. It may mean less pay, but it will mean more happiness.
2007-03-15 03:52:46 · answer #5 · answered by Ask Aunt Amy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He is working for your future, have patience. When you have a few moments alone make the best of it. Make those times special no matter how little time you have. Try waiting up for him and have a glass of wine for him or whatever will show him you are supportive and love him for how hard he works for you.
2007-03-15 04:02:40 · answer #6 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is really married to his job. Try planning weekend getaways to re connect. Try things like making date nights. I know that this sounds a little corny but you have to get on his calendar and make yourself just as important in his eyes as his work.
2007-03-15 03:55:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is a lot of men & woman becoming so career denicated that everything else in there life gets left behind. I see that often in Systems Integration.
2007-03-15 03:57:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not really. If you had a boyfriend, at least you'd be having sex........
What does "Feel like I have a boyfirend" mean exactly???" My boyfriend lives with me, and it feels like a ball-and-chain....much like a HUSBAND!
2007-03-15 03:56:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him no you don't understand and see if his boss will cut his hours down
2007-03-18 14:29:46 · answer #10 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋