I have been going through a custody battle for almost 2 years now...my ex is doing things to me, my fiancee and my children..most of it is emotional crap...one week to keep my kids from me he reported to children services that my fiancee is abusing our two kids...well that was going to be closed...the following week he went a little to far and is now accusing my fiancee of sexually abusing our 3 year old daughter...he is going to put this little girl thru some terrible tests just to keep my kids from me. I know my fiancee I am with now and he would NEVER hurt my kids that way. As a matter of fact w/my daughter when I was working he would never change her diaper he would ask one of our neighbors (both female) to do it. Well we are at our wits end...we don't know what to do...who to talk to...my fiancee even called the police on himself...he said if he is going to make this false allegations aganist him he wanted to be arrested...so I wrote the magistrate...but I haven't mailed it yet
2007-03-15 03:48:58 · 9 answers · asked by debbie81268 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Document everything. Every accusation, every delay, every conversation.
Consult with your lawyer. I think you should be able to present the pattern of behavior to a judge and have both full custody of your children and your ex-husband arrested for making false police reports. Finally, you and your fiance should get restraining orders against your ex-husband.
2007-03-15 06:15:31 · answer #1 · answered by Martin Pedersen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it can be used against you. I wouldn't send the letter. Consult with your attorney and do what they tell you to do.
Good luck. It's just another immature battle for the kids by their parents that profess so much love for them but can't act like they mean what they say by bad mouthing and/or harassing the other. Most states grant joint custodoy and one parent becomes the custodial parent. I think letting your fiance live with you added fuel to the fire - perhaps waiting until marriage would have been more appropriate for your children and certainly better for them. But, then, do we ever think of how our actions effect our kids? Immature parents do not. We never see our own flaws. Look in the mirror and work on yourself. Your actions are also unhealthy for your kids. And you can't control your ex - only yourself - so work on being a better parent.
2007-03-15 11:09:11 · answer #2 · answered by Stefka 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to consult with an attorney before mailing a letter to the magistrate; he may be able to assist you in a resolution with your problem. There may be something, legally, that you can do. Laws vary with every state, so get some expert advice first. Good luck!
2007-03-15 11:35:04 · answer #3 · answered by grandm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You ex sounds jealous and crazy. I would not how ever bring any more attention to myself than the ex already has. Yes that letter can be used against you both. Never go to the courts or authorities on yourself.
I would get a new lawyer. The one you have isn't helping you at all.
2007-03-15 11:01:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wheres ur attorney in all this? do not admit to anything u have not done ur fiancee admittin to that will b labeled a sex offender the rest of his life dont play ur exes game contact attorney put call tracing on ur phone record day date time anything keep a diary of all threats then go to court armed with knowledge include in ur diary the emotions u are going thru Good Luck
2007-03-15 10:53:50 · answer #5 · answered by mmbmw2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am assuming this is the magistrate who is handling your custody case. If it is, then the letter is an ex parte communication and can cause you trouble in your case. If you have an attorney, consult with him or her before sending the letter. If you do not have an attorney, get one now.
2007-03-15 10:52:44 · answer #6 · answered by Heather Mac 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no don't send any letters, get an attorney involved in this, your ex will continue to cause u grief, tell your fiance to stop making calls and be silent. when one allegation shows to have no merit, this man will make up another one. the truth will eventually come out, and they will see your ex as he really is, but u need to be quiet, and let an attorney handle all this.
2007-03-15 11:51:33 · answer #7 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That letter could be misconstrued as an attempt to persuade him. I'd consult an attorney before sending anything like that.
2007-03-15 10:51:29 · answer #8 · answered by Ask Aunt Amy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you sign it XOXOXO I don't see a problem
2007-03-15 10:51:59 · answer #9 · answered by pinkbishie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋