My exhusband and his wife are renewing thier vows and have invited my husband and i to come. Is it proper for us to go or not?
2007-03-15 03:48:51 · 21 answers · asked by d_lhester 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
me personally i would not go. Send a nice card and a little gft.
2007-03-15 03:51:21 · answer #1 · answered by dinkylynn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends on your relationship with her and your ex. If you have been invited so that salt can be rubbed in the wound, then I don't think I would give them the satisaction of even responding. However, if you have a cordial relationship and it's all good between you, there is no reason why you should not attend. If you have children that want you there, then that's another whole ball game. There really is no right or wrong answer. It all depends on how YOU will feel if you do attend.
2007-03-15 03:53:57 · answer #2 · answered by Muffin1999 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, think to yourself: "Would I ask them to attend the same event for me? Do I believe they would attend?" Both answers depend on the relationship that you have with your ex and his wife. If it is amicable, and you will not feel hurt in any way by attending, then go. They would likely do the same for you. If the relationship is still strained, then chances are the current wife was just trying to extend a friendly gesture. If the latter is true, I agree with the first answerer. Send a small gift and a card. If the relationship is amicable, then I think you should go if you feel comfortable.
2007-03-15 03:57:39 · answer #3 · answered by Leigh_Prefect 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would absolutely go. You, your new husband, ex husband, and his wife should all be very proud that you were all able to let bygones be bygones and act like adults. If you have children whether thru your ex or your present husband you would be showing them a fantastic example. We had a death in the family recently and I let my ex-wife know that she was welcome to come show her respects, unfortunately my sister acted like a child when her ex-husband showed up. Good for all of you.
2007-03-15 04:02:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That was really big of her. You should go if you and the wife are on friendly terms. You mentioned us. If that mean the children then it will proper for them to go after all he is their father. But you should only go if you want to.
If not than politely decline.
2007-03-15 03:58:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's very much depends on the relationships you have with your ex. Did you get over him? Are you friendly with him? Do you have kids with ex ?Do you want him in your life in a future as a friend? I would go, if I sad "yes" to at least 3 questions
2007-03-15 03:57:26 · answer #6 · answered by helenahurricane 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your really tight friends its OK but I don't see why they would even ask you . That and i don't see why anybody would renew there vows unless one of them cheated and broke the old vows LOL
2007-03-15 04:01:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you all get along and are comfortable within each other's company, then I do not see why you shouldn't go. If you do not get along and therefore feel uncomfortable within each other's company, then I would not go. If this is the case, send a nice gift with good wishes.
2007-03-15 04:06:14 · answer #8 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are under no obligation to do so, but to tell you the truth, if it were me then I'd probably go. Gotta keep good blood and all especially if you and your ex had children together. If no kids are involved, then it's totally up to you.
2007-03-15 03:52:03 · answer #9 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are happy with your life now and they are happy with theirs, everybody has moved on. It takes a big person to send an invitation like that and an even bigger one to accept it
2007-03-15 04:07:53 · answer #10 · answered by Momof4 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me thats tacky but if you are all on good terms and want to go the go. Honestly, I dont see why she would want you to attend unless its for a gift
2007-03-15 03:52:05 · answer #11 · answered by bbinqueens33 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋