Bear with me here. Kinda confusing. My brother-in-law's girlfriend is pregnant. She is going to a consultation to have an abortion. I'm not friends with this girl, but do talk to my B-I-L. He doesn't support her decision, so asked or my opinion. I told him that if he doesn't support her, he shouldn't help her pay for it because he will be help accountable for it once judgement day comes. God never puts more on you than you can not handle. He has done everything to try to talk her out of this decision, but she won't budge. I know it's her body, but I feel she's being selfish because she choosing her career over an unborn baby. My question is---Did I do or say the right thing?! This is NOT A DEBATE, just tell me what you think. Thanks.
2007-03-15 03:46:11 · 25 answers · asked by Aiden's Momma 3 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
I did not just step in and say how I felt. He ASKED ME for my opinion. I simply told him if he doesn't support her decision to abort the baby, then don't help her pay for it. And like I said, this is not a debate, I know for a fact that she's on birth control.
2007-03-15 03:58:54 · update #1
Well, it really isn't your decision...that's true. But, if you're like me and extremely close to your family, then by all means, say something... He shouldn't pay for a dime! That's her decision to end a life, not his...
2007-03-15 03:53:33 · answer #1 · answered by Shannon Kay 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋
I think that you should not get into this mess, because of something those happen, you never know but they might come back and blame you for everything. I feel the same way you do, but the best thing here is for both them to go to counseling. They could always decide to out the baby up for adoption or you brother in law can take care of him since he seems to care for the baby and his gf, After all the baby never asked them to bring them into this world. And being a little mean, she was not forced and she knew exactly what she was doing, if her career was so important then why didn't she take birth control pills or something. I as for your question they should take counseling, and as you said he will be part of it to once judgment day comes. Maybe in counseling they will show her what a baby goes through with abortion. I learned that a baby actually suffers when this is being done to them. Hope this helps, and i will pray that she wont have an abortion, Best of Luck
2007-03-15 03:59:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I agree that if he is not supportive in the decision to abort the unborn baby then he shouldn't pay...after all, lots of men aren't supportive when they find out their lady is pregnant and that's the last she sees of him so obviously those type of men don't help pay for those babies that do get born into the world
Maybe....something will happen, hopefully, that changes her mind about the abortion, I've heard you can only have it done within the first six weeks if it is legal where you live and if the unborn baby is past the six weeks than the doctors refuse to do it and she will have no choice but to carry on with the pregnancy and have the baby. I say this because alot of women don't know they are pregnant for sure within the first six weeks so she may past the time limit for the abortion.
2007-03-15 03:56:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Is he willing to do all the midnight feedings? Change all the diapers? Support the baby?
Maybe he shouldn't help her pay for the abortion, let her get pissed off and break up with him, and use the money he saved on condoms the next time around.
It's her body- her decision- he's being selfish by wanting her to pick what he wants over her career. He needs to either find a girl ready to have a family or accept the fact that women are more than baby vessels.
2007-03-15 03:50:58 · answer #4 · answered by Jen F 5 · 3⤊ 3⤋
I don't envy your position, but I completely agree with what you had to say. I'm not among the die-hard pro life people who rally against abortion no matter what, but the decision to terminate a life, even before it has begun, is a grave one. Certainly not something to be done for petty or selfish reasons. (I understand if the child is the product of rape, or likely to be born HIV positive, or in poverty or something, but it sounds like this isn't the case, here.) Assuming this is your brother-in-law's child, I believe he deserves some say in what happens to it. They will both have to live with the decision for the rest of their lives, and I would urge them both not to take it lightly.
2007-03-15 03:58:29 · answer #5 · answered by The Mad Shillelagh 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Unfortunately there is nothing more you can do. You've let it be known how you felt about it. From here on out it is her decision. I am definitely against abortion, but at the end of the day, you've done all you can.
2007-03-15 03:51:27 · answer #6 · answered by comet girl...DUCK! 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I think abortion is wrong period. If he doesn't agree with her than he should not help her. True it is her body but its not just her decision. It is HIS baby too. He has a say in it. If she doesn't want to get pregnant she should not have laid down in the first place. I think you told him the right thing.
2007-03-15 03:51:14 · answer #7 · answered by Britty 4 · 3⤊ 2⤋
I think you did great. Abortion is wrong it is murder the child has a heartbeat. And you were very correct in saying they will stand before the judge of God. God gave them a child for a reason. and it wasn't to kill it. I give you props. Continue to tell them. You did just fine.
2007-03-15 04:28:19 · answer #8 · answered by Krista 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
yes but the God argument, some people cannot see pass that. what about the fact that this child could have grown into someone that just loves him no matter who he is? and also that he was irresponsible and needs to take matters in as an adult and handle what he is suppose to do. children shouldnt be a mistake! we cannot just throw them away. where is the respect for humankind if we kill our own kind?
2007-03-15 03:51:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
I dont think you said the right thing at all. I dont believe that you go to hell if you have an abortion. it is a load of bollocks. That girl has got the right to decide whether she wants to be a mother or not, and your bil should support her no matter what. grow up and get a life, and stay out of important decisions that dont concern you.
additional info: Birth control is not 100% effective - i have several friends who fell pregnant whilst on the pill, and one who fell whilst using the coil.
2007-03-15 03:51:14 · answer #10 · answered by littlekitty 4 · 2⤊ 4⤋
Did you do the right thing yes did you say the right thing I guess if you believe in God like that. If it is his baby he should stand up for what he wants. If he was man enough to make that baby he need to be man enough to care for the child as well.
2007-03-15 03:53:35 · answer #11 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋