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2007-03-15 03:44:02 · 11 answers · asked by kirkleyak@sbcglobal.net 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sorry- It is not a scam, and I will take the asking money part off- i just am desperate.
2007-03-15 04:13:47 · update #1
leave the bum...do you clean windows?
2007-03-15 03:46:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Sorry, I read your story and you are in a mess. I take it that you do not want to try to save this marriage. You're the only one that knows if that's true but I'll go on from there. You assume each others debt when you're married. There is no getting around that. You and him also made some really bad decisions.
BUT.... you do not have to stay with him or accept the conditions that he imposes. He has no right to demand you turn over anything. That's abuse...emotionally and financially. Go see a good lawyer. There are free clinics that offer legal aid if you can't afford it. Find out what your rights are !!!
Then, you can take whatever steps are necessary to begin a new and better life for yourself. and....if he ever crosses the line into physical abuse....call the cops, press charges, get a restraining order, seek aid from a women's aid group (they're plenty and easy to find). Realize that you are a human being with worth and should not be bullied or abused in any way.
I wish you luck and please don't condemn all men - you found a true lemon - they're plenty of good ones out there.
2007-03-15 04:06:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this man obviously has no real respect for you or your quality of life, the best thing you can do is get out, i am unsure on the legal side if things where you live but here in the uk i would move home with family (tail between the legs and admitting that your broken works in your favour, trust me!) then offer your hubby to buy you out of your share of propery, if he declined file for devorce under the grounds of mental cruelty and phycological control and abuse. play the victim to your audiance, let everybody know what you have to live with and why your doing what your doing. the longer you stay in this under minding marriage the harder in will be to leave, you only have a year to you qualify! you will be able to support yourself and move anywhere you want, come work in the UK :-) you will feel a greater sense of self worth when you are standing on your own two feet. Some men need a good firm kick up the ***... but by the time they get it the woman has grown to realise that they dont need.... or even want to be in vicinity as them, they usually learn eventually but it won't be you he changes for... you have been his designated doormat in the past so it will only make it easier for him to go back to being a selfish ****! you on the other hand will have experienced freedom and will no longer be a doormat but will only ever accept male standards that meet your criteria.
I wish you the west of luck, have courage and take the bull by the horns!
2007-03-15 04:11:24 · answer #3 · answered by lezzers2004 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When you marry someone, you become ONE. His debt is your debt and vice versa. You get divorced or want to be on your own and you'll meet a guy with a whole different set of issues and have to deal with that. It may be worse than having a little debt.
In the Laura Ingles day, you both would work to pay off the debt and live happily ever after...that's my two cents.
2007-03-15 03:55:26 · answer #4 · answered by Tadow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I felt bad for your situation until the end of your post where you ask for $$ from online readers. You are young and able to make your own money. The fact that you ask for money makes your story less credible.
Providing that you are being honest about your situation, I
recommend leaving - you probably know that you should do this anyhow since you are so miserable!
Move in with your parents until you finish nursing school.
2007-03-15 03:58:39 · answer #5 · answered by selery222 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
GURL.. !!!!
All joke aside...this is not your fault. Your husband has bad money problem. You need understand that not cus he is a man..he knew what he was doing.
GURL!! the marriage..well we will speak. My advice is get that house sold..let me rephase that YOU need to get the house sold.( he is too lazy to do it and might put up a fight)
Take some of the money for a cheaper house and pay off bills. Foreclosure is a B*tch...and you will be heading that way, Bad credit will raise everything for you.
TAKE YOUR NAME OFF EVERYTHING THAT IS JOINT WITH HIM. He will dragg you down
PS STOP BEGGING FOR MONEY ONLINE..COME ON!!!! THIS MAKE ME THINK THIS IS A SCAM... wait a min $1 a peice per yahoo user....hmmmmm Can i play your homeless sister , that can't afford to eat lunch, cus i donated my $1 to you? Please :)
2007-03-15 03:51:16 · answer #6 · answered by Princess AJ 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Just leave.
2007-03-15 04:14:42 · answer #7 · answered by kitkat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
find out what the problem is then fix it
2007-03-15 03:47:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just leave him and do what you want to do!!! :)
2007-03-15 03:48:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
sorry, that is not what this forum is for
2007-03-15 05:43:58 · answer #10 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋