I am a male that resides in the state of Ohio. I am the residential parent of my two daughters in a shared parenting plan I have with their mother. We have been divorced for 4 years now. My ex is the one that decided she wanted out of our marriage and was re-married within a year after our divorce to someone she was secretly seeing while we were still married. I re-married 7 months ago and within 3 months after my wedding my ex-filed for full custody of the girls which she was denied and nothing changed on our current agreement. She has now filed for child support because she wants to become a stay at home mom which I have nothing against but should her choice to quit her job be my responsibility to support her financially? I know what the Ohio law says but at the same time what would be wrong with me becoming a stay at home dad? I guess I'm having more trouble with the spiteful nature that this all is taking on and not the benefit of the children.
2007-03-15 03:34:33 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
Unfortunately, if the law doesn't agree with you, you might end up paying that child support. This to me is ridiculous considering she is re-married and has only recently decided she no longer feels like working. Now obviously you want to provide and take care of your children, but if I'm reading your statement correctly, you have been doing that in an agreement entered into by you and the mother. Sounds like you are doing what you should if not all you can and one would think that would be enough. Hell maybe you should become a stay at home dad and let her start paying you child support. Good luck though in your situation. I hope it turns out well for you.
2007-03-15 03:42:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am confused - you are the residential parent meaning you have the physical custody or the kids use your mailing address? Shared parenting plan = 50/50 time with the kids?
Quite honestly - and this is a woman's perspective - happy ho ho's for her if she wants to be a stay-at-home mom......it's a great thing IF YOU CAN AFFORD IT. If not then take your lazy butt up off the couch and get a job.
The most important thing to the kids is the love and support of both parents - which precludes petty bull like this to get back at each other.
Tell her to shut up, grow up, and get back to work.
Sorry - I really hate women who use child support as a paycheck.
2007-03-15 03:43:52 · answer #2 · answered by Susie D 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand the residential parent part but I am guessing they have your DNA?
If so, unfortunately the law is tilted to the females and you will have to pay. I have sole custody of my child and have not gotten a court ordered support check in years. My state, Texas for all you legal beagles out there in Texas, will not go after her for the support, garnish her wages or allow any charges to be filed. Now if it was the other way around...? sheeeeet.
2007-03-15 03:48:28 · answer #3 · answered by dude0795 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me that if your ex wants to become a stay at home mom that is a lifestyle her current husband needs to support not you.
If your children are school age- what kind mom duties could she be handling from 8 am until 3pm that aren't currently being handled after she gets home from work?
As a working single mom I have often wondered what gets mothered while children are at school.
She made a decision to have children- she needs to support them as well. It is not your responsibility to support her choice to stay at home. I can't believe she would make the choice to not support her children and would throw that responsibility off on everyone else. You do what is right by your children, it is obvious she's not real concerned about their welfare.
Good luck to you and yours
2007-03-15 03:50:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
By what you described in your question I would have to say yes, you should pay child support. Think of it this way, you are not paying to let your ex stay at home. You are supporting your children. I think that should be the main issue. I do think the courts should however take into consideration your ex's new husband and his income before passing judgment on you.
2007-03-15 03:39:26 · answer #5 · answered by bildymooner 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm confused...you're the residential parent? Does this mean that they spend most of the time living with you? If this is the case why/how can their mother even consider trying to get child support out of you?
2007-03-15 03:50:39 · answer #6 · answered by Sunidaze 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should.
Confuscious say it take many nails to build a crib. But only one good screw to fill it.
2007-03-15 06:45:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you two should appear on Springer.
2007-03-15 03:40:08 · answer #8 · answered by Keith 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She could get child support from you no matter what.
2007-03-15 03:43:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋