So... I am 25...?

Question

and I have never had an orgasm. I love sex, but I wish I knew what to do so that it can be mutually satisfying. I read cosmo, but they never really tell you how to get where you want to go. I am pretty sure that I'm not "frigid"... but I just need some help. Anybody have any tips (that aren't sarcastic or rude)?

mmm... yeah, i don't need any kind of "grantees" from anybody beside my fiancee.
but on a different note, i have had many orgasms through oral sex, just not like, vaginal intercourse.

Answer 1

Dear Fife,

Achieving an orgasm through vaginal orgasm is more difficult than through oral or manual stimulation as you know. Something like only 25% of women ever experience a vaginal orgasm through intercourse. But I’m on your side and here to reveal the best ways to do it.

Step 1
Have a regular orgasm first (oral or manual), this increases your chance of having a subsequent vaginal orgasm by about 70%!

Step 2
You will need your partner to build you up. Try and have a reasonable amount of love-making. Definitely at least 5 minutes (10 minutes or more of active pentration would be better though)

Step 3: Positions
Use the right positions. Go for positions that allow for deeper penetration. E.g doggy style, or on your back with your legs up. You want him to have as much contact with your g-spot as possible

Step 4:
Have fun and experiment. Build up to it. There needs to be quite a lot of active thrusting and intercourse. Your partner will need to achieve a reasonable pace and pressure

Step 5
Have him hit your G-Spot as much as possible (if you don't know where this is, experiment, read on the net and find out - it will be worth your while!)

Step 6
Relax into it and don’t focus on it. Focus on the pleasure and imagine yourself having a strong vaginal orgasm.

Good luck and enjoy yourself. Try different positions and go with what feels best. If your bed is too soft, you won’t achieve enough stimulation, try the floor or the kitchen table instead!!

Best,
DeMarco of Harder Longer Stronger

Answer 2

If you've never had an orgasm, then I think you probably won't have one during couple sex until you know what works during solo sex for you. You need to figure out what gets you going so you can tell your partner. It also takes some of the pressure off when you're trying alone. And it also takes pressure off him since he's not worrying what he's doing wrong.

I'd suggest going to a big bookstore or an adult shop (a good one, not a seedy one) and find some books. You're not really going to get a very in-depth answer from the internet, especially since each person is different, and what might work for me won't work for you. Flip through the different books they have and find one that appeals to you. A really good adult store will be able to also give you information about up coming seminars that might be helpful, too.

Remember, just relax. If you stress out about orgasm, chances are you're not going to have one. Good luck!

Edit: Gah, just read your edit, which makes everything I've said pointless. Oh, well, all I can suggest are positions that let you please yourself while he's inside.

Answer 3

There is a lot of misinformation about sex and everything having to do with it. Porno doesn't help when it shows women having repeated 'orgasms' while doing everything. Mags like 'Cosmo' aren't much better - since they focus on trying to make sex 'more exciting' rather than more intimate.

I am assuming that by 'never' you mean while during intercourse (unless you have a lot of self-control).

The fact is, the majority of women cannot climax during normal vaginal intercourse. Some can do better in different positions, but even then most will need some kind of clitoral stimulation. Obviously you need to be relaxed, and he shouldn't be in a hurry - and needs to be aware of your sexual needs.

Answer 4

Welcome to the majority woman's world! Most women never reach orgasm through intercourse. Masturbation and the use of mechanical devices specifically designed for that purpose are your best answer. ( of course, oral sex tops the list). Every woman is different in such a way as some are able to climax within minutes while others require persistance. Either way, the ability exist, it's just a matter of obtaining a result!

Answer 5

The first thing to know is that many many women DO NOT ORGASM with intercourse. Second you need to explore your own body and find out what makes you orgasm so you can tell or show your partner. If you don't know what makes you orgasm then how can you show your partner what makes you orgasm. Second since most women don't orgasm with intercourse that means your partner needs to either finish you off by hand or finish you with oral. Explore your body and find out what makes your orgasm then use this to help your sex life.

Answer 6

I've heard that alot of women, although they enjoy sex, just don't have orgasms

I wish I knew what else to tell you that would help...I haven't experienced one either, and I'm 28, so I've got no tips for you but I wish you luck in your orgasm quest

Answer 7

I had the same problem, but I found that using a small vibrator to stimulate my clitoris during intercourse nearly always brings me to orgasm. Best of luck!

Answer 8

explore... first off great question, you show great maturity for a 25 y.o. to have the balls to even ask and not worry about sounding to like a slut. kudos!! but here's my method. my wife and i have explored eachothers bodies some much that you eventually know what eachother likes and dislikes. where and when to touch her where and how is what i had to learn. and i can now make her come in a matter of minutes. so explore with your partner and find that one thing that can make your toes curl. when you find it go with it until your roof blows off.

Answer 9

Dr. Drew always says that many women need oral stimulation if they can't do it the sex way

Answer 10

I think I could help you have one if your interested?? As a matter of fact I will grantee it!!


OOPS sorry didnt know you had someone else!! Maybe try something together couples yoga or massage to warm things up first?? Again sorry about that I didnt know!! Best of luck to ya