I'm happily married, our sex life is ,ummm, a little below average. Lately I've been lusting over other women. I can't stop thinking about it. I don't want to cheat on my wife, but these urges are starting to get to me!
2007-03-15 03:00:24 · 14 answers · asked by timmer 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Woa, that is not a good thing, because their is smoke, their will be fire. You need to stay away from these women and try to remember why you got married. Was it all about sex, or was it about love, and liking to spend time with your wife, wanting to spend the rest of your life with her? Was it on a whim, or did you mean your marriage vows?
You need to sit down with your wife, explain that you aren't getting sexually satisfied, and ask her if the two of you can come up with a solution that may work for both, a compromise.
I do admire you for NOT cheating and realizing it's becoming a problem.
2007-03-15 03:07:33 · answer #1 · answered by bina64davis 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, so this question hits really close to home and I'm a woman.
My husband is in the military and is gone a lot lately (like a year at a time). My mind wanders because I'm not getting the attention I need. However, I think about what my life would be like if I lost him and I know that cheating is not an option because I love him.
Anyway, you and your wife need to talk about this in a BIG way. You have a roving mind because your wants and needs are not being fulfilled.
You did not marry this woman because she was a cruel and unfeeling person, so talk to her and tell her that you feel like your sex life is lacking. She probably has some of those same feelings. Give your marriage some credit; it's worked this long.
2007-03-15 04:19:34 · answer #2 · answered by Tootsie2175 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer is clear to me. Your sex life is a little below average and you are lacking, your thoughts are wandering because your needs are unfulfilled. Talk to your wife see if she feels the same way ( I mean about the low sex life) and look for ways to spice it up like in the begiing when you first go together. Please don't cheat on your wife a marrige is a very sacred thing.
2007-03-15 03:20:52 · answer #3 · answered by Joyann R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're headed for a train wreck if you don't keep your urges under control.
Why not turn all that desire for other women into desire for your wife? Try romancing her to spark your sex life. Most women begin to feel that their love life has turned into just sex after a couple of years together. Do what you did when you were trying to get her attention!
2007-03-15 03:06:00 · answer #4 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is question of wanting other women, I think you are caught up in the routine of marriage.
I have just gone through something similar with my husband,
It is a very long story, but the short of it is we both sat down and had a very long talk about things we did not want to voice out loud in order not to hurt the other person. I think you need to talk to your wife about your sex life,
Start treating her as a women and not your wife or mother if you have children.
Be honest with her tell her want you need, she can't read your mind.
I know it worked for me and I hope this works for you
best of luck to you
2007-03-15 03:21:27 · answer #5 · answered by topside 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like maybe you got married to young or perhaps you didn't "sow" your oats enough before you got hitched. Have you talked to your wife about your displeasures in the bed room? What about introducing some toys or role playing to spice things up? If your gonna cheat, you might as well get a divorce buddy. Good luck.
2007-03-15 03:19:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
um well i do not know what to say but maybe it's because you are getting tire of having sex with same women for such a long time and if you do not want to cheat on her then you wont and you control all your own actions and think about how much you love your wife every time you want other woman and if you truly love her you wont cheat on her.
2007-03-15 03:09:49 · answer #7 · answered by judith 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Focus your attention elsewhere. Talk to your wife about your sex-life. It's possible that she desires improvement in that area as well. Don't make the huge mistake of infidelity. Marriage is constant work; you have to create an atmosphere of passion. Talk to your wife. Communicate with her.
2007-03-15 03:06:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry, your wife probably feels the same way.
And also, if your sex life is not so great, you need to realize you are 50% of the problem.
2007-03-15 03:31:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
male nature..
have you talked to her about your sex life? I know from our own experiences here at home, our sex life was below average as well, it goes in spurts no pun intended, but what it really came down to is my lack of self esteem on my part, nothing to do with my husband, but once I had the nerve to talk to him about what was really bugging me, I also talked to my Dr and his advice was to take a bubble bath and get to know myself so I wouldn't be so self conscious. that took me along time to finally do but I did it and now find things so much easier in the bedroom with my husband
2007-03-15 03:07:11 · answer #10 · answered by Tammy N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋