But i want to be open to whatever will satisfy him and me. How do i dirty talk him or can u give me a website where i can learn it. no porn sites please.
2007-03-15 02:45:15 · 16 answers · asked by islandgirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Dear Girl, if you feel uncomfortable doing what your B/F has requested of you, I would not do it under any circumstances. Tell him, you do not feel comfortable doing dirty talk with him, and it doesn't make you feel sexy at all. To me he is going over the line with you. I don't know how old you are but the way you are speaking, you seem young, so just tell him you won't do it. That's it. Don't let him manipulate you. Be strong with your convictions. If he starts being nasty, and downgrades you I would tell him to hit the highway and it is over. There are many nice guys out there who have the same morals as you do and would respect you. Best of Luck
2007-03-15 04:03:01 · answer #1 · answered by cardgirl2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your boyfriend that you feel uncomfortable with it and that is the end of the story. Sounds like he will tell you a lot about what to do to 'satisfy him' and you will be tempted to go along with it, or lose him.
That's a bad attitude for you to have in a relationship. It's a kind of emotional blackmail. Having sex with you (I assume you two are already doing that) isn't good enough? Find someone else - who will appreciate you.
Any website that teaches you to talk dirty will be a porn site. And don't be surprised if porn is high on his list of things that he thinks will be exciting.
If you think this through, you will lose this guy.
2007-03-15 09:52:26 · answer #2 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are uncomfortable DONT DO IT !!!!!! do it only if you will both take pleasure from it! As for how to do it I'm not sure you can learn but think of what you say to each other when you are intimate. That should give you a good start & go from there. When & if you are ready, let him open the conversation & you can take over from there. Tell him what you are wearing, have him envision you taking it all off, have him tell you if he is dressed/naked. Ask him what he wants you to do now that you are undressed, and talk about doing it (Ex: I'm playing with my breasts and thinking of you sucking them... It feels so good). But remenber only do this if you are comfortable!!!!!!!!
2007-03-15 09:56:34 · answer #3 · answered by hope 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him it makes u feel uncomfortable.
If he still wants u to do it, means he is not bothered about u , does not have any respect 4 ur feelings!
Being open (as u say)does not mean demeaning or putting down urself or making urself a rag!
Sorry if I am sounding extreme !
But really he needs to give u time n space .
He needs to understand u too!
2007-03-15 09:52:34 · answer #4 · answered by mari 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to your gut. You are uncomfortable. Which means you know you don't want to do it. Don't try to be someone you are not. If he wants someone to talk dirty to him there are plenty of bots that will do just that for him. He should respect the way you feel. Period.
2007-03-15 10:31:23 · answer #5 · answered by bountyhunter101 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not like you have to say something specific, just tell him what you'd do to him if he was there. It doesn't have to be super nasty, you can start off with something as simple as describing what you're wearing and then go from there. If it still makes you uncomfortable though, that's okay too...don't do anything you don't want to do.
2007-03-15 09:52:09 · answer #6 · answered by Vivita 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it were me, i would tell him i was uncomfortable with the whole thing and hope he would understand. it's good that you want to be open to satisfy him, but don't do it if it makes you feel uncomfortable.
2007-03-15 09:49:41 · answer #7 · answered by jamie_0778 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him how you feel, be open with him, start slow I don't have a web site to direct you to but once you get into it.. if you are comfortable enough let him start, and follow with what your body tells you to say, I did it one time with my husband while he was working away from home, it was plain and simple phone sex but he was blown away as was I, didn't think I could do it but it worked
2007-03-15 09:50:37 · answer #8 · answered by Tammy N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU don't want to go there just because he does.
If you are uncomfortable with it, it will not satisfy you. He has some fantasies that you will not be able to fulfill.
2007-03-15 09:49:06 · answer #9 · answered by Thomas K 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
there is no websites that can help you just tink dirty and write what ever come in your head. first timers, i can get a little freaky..
2007-03-15 09:48:31 · answer #10 · answered by godwin j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋