Am I a selfish person?

Question

I love to help people with whatever I can. I might be depressed, at least I feel helpless and sad a lot of the time. I am slightly antisocial, with very few friends. I am 19, and a junior in college. Do any of these things make me selfish? By talking about these kind of details, asking for help, am I just doing it so I can feel better? Is that selfish? I am terribly confused, and it is affecting me adversely.

Answer 1

How on earth could ANYONE accuse you of being selfish?
Depresssion is a disease....so when you think of it this way, would you think of yourself as being selfish if you had cancer and you wanted treatement.
THERE IS NOT DIFFERENCE!
Depression is when the body does not produce enough of the chemicals that make you happy. Alot of the times drugs can assist your body in doing just that...
It is NEVER selfish to treat an illness
and dont be so hard on yourself...maybe you are shy but not antisocial~
Get help

Answer 2

You fell helpless most likely because you cannot help everyone. It is very simple. You are not at all selfish, you are just trying to figure yourself out before moving on, which is good. The sadness comes from just feeling that you failed someone at something. It is OK to fail at some times with some people. Just keep on rolling.
There is nothing wrong with being antisocial and stuff, you got some friends, and that's all you need. You do not suffer from depression, because depression makes you completely hopeless, and lose the will to go on. You don't sound like that. Don't give up, don't give in, cause living on is always a good thing.

Answer 3

Selfishness is when you only care about "self". You have a natural passion for others, and there is nothing wrong with that. Being slightly antisocial or thinking that you might be depressed has nothing to do with being selfish. There are countless number of people out here that wouldn't mind helping you with your mental state. Friends,family, church members, teachers, etc. Our biggest critic is ourself. You are a bright young person who wants doesn't mind assisting others. You deserve someone or something that will do the same for you. Once you do come across someone or something of this calliber, your world will feel a little better, but take it one day at a time. Do things that you like to do or really want to do to feel better about yourself first without imposing on others. Good luck on your journey.

Answer 4

You are one of the sensitive people, who blames yourself first, but is also sensitive to the insensitivity of others.
You think something is wrong with you because you don't run around like there is no problem in the world. You see so many things that are wrong because you are bright and intuitive.
Everyone is selfish to some degree, but you are less selfish than others. The majority of people would not even ask the question, they are all about #1 and don't think twice about it.
Try to make the best of who you are and find as much joy as you can. You are a special type of person who will know the true sadness that goes along with the true beauty of life.

Answer 5

Not at all, it sounds like you are just an introvert. I would go and seek therapy for the depression and sadness.

Being antisocial does not mean that you are selfish it means that you don't want to socialize and that is fine.

My question to you would be do you enjoy being antisocial, have you always been that way? Or is this a new part of your personality?

Answer 6

Your are not selfish and you are probably not anti social either (you probably have a few friends b/c quality is better than quantity and you are intelligent enough to realize that) and my goodness if you are depressed it shows how not selfish you are b/c you are extending yourself yo help others in spite of your problems. Don't even stress over this!! If someone told you that you are selfish & that is why you are thinking this they should just p%$# off! They either don't know or don't understand what it is like to deal with being depressed.

Answer 7

You are not selfish.

Have you been badly hurt? Did you have to break a lot of affectionate bonds? Perhaps you are keeping yourself at a distance to stop that from happening again.

Some people like to help others but find it zaps them of energy and they lack the strength to help themselves.

You need someone to share you pain and thoughts with. The best thing I can recommend is to chose someone to trust- that doesn't make you selfish- it makes you 'normal'.

Answer 8

selfish people don,t normally look at themselves they are too busy looking at others fault i know i live next door to a selfish *****. I think you are like me and take things personally perhaps and read overcoming low self esteem by melanie fennel cos you seem to put yourself down quite a bit and people can feed off that lack of confidance take care
you are too self critical and you need to focus on the good in you and not the negative believe me selfish people never look at themselves

Answer 9

THere are times in our lives where it is essential to reach out to other people to help ourselves feel better. We are not supposed to "go it alone"- it is humanly impossible no matter whether you are anti social or not. I think you are depressed and that can alter your way of thinking tremendously. People who suffer from depression do not always think rationally. Their normal thinking is clouded by there overwhelming sadness and anxiety. So I think you are right to post this- and no, it does not make you selfish. It makes you quite responsable, trying to help yourself and reaching out to others.

So hang in there- if you need to talk- my e-mail is posted through yahoo answers. But you should talk to someone whether it be me or a counselor at your school. Talking helps you feel better and of course, you want to feel better!

Good luck to you

Answer 10

I don't think it is selfish in anyway. Being antisocial and possibly depressed doesn't make you selfish.
I think you are thinking about it too much. Go out and do something.