My wife had a long affair and now it looks like we will be divorcing. Should I tell the other man's wife what they have been doing? She says that they are no longer seeing each other, but who knows?
2007-03-15 02:36:22 · 31 answers · asked by royalldoc 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
His wife hasn't done anything to you and you would only being hurting her...So no, no matter how tempting, just let this go....I know its hard...Good luck
2007-03-15 03:03:42 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Is your wife leaving you for the man with whom she has been having this "long affair"? If so, this guy's wife is going to figure it out pretty soon. In any case, I would definitely NOT tell her anything. I'm sure she is hurt and humiliated enough without you adding to her pain. You too, will overcome the hurt from your wife's infidelity and someday meet someone deserving of your love. God bless you.
2007-03-15 10:34:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a difficult question. I can understand why you want to. However, I always wonder why it would be necessary to purposely hurt another person just because you (or me) have been wronged. While she deserves to know, is she better living in ignorant bliss? If it were a friend of mine, and her husband was sleeping around, I'd tell her. But a complete stranger, telling her would destroy her, and you would bring her that hurt. I'm fairly certain she must know something, or at least suspects and may find out on her own. But as I said, I'm torn. Many people think vengeance is sweet, but do you want to be the cause (well, her HUSBAND is the cause) of hurting someone that deeply? But you could also ask yourself if you would want something to tell you. That may help.
2007-03-15 09:41:41 · answer #3 · answered by bina64davis 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This actually happened to me. I can tell you that when I first was approached by the others husband I was shocked, hurt and angry, but after doing some of my own digging, I found out that he had several women on the side. This stranger who in on breath ripped my life apart was also the reason that I dumped by 2 timing cheating husband, and am now in a 20 year marriage with someone who truly loves me.
I am ever great full for this mans' courage to talk to me, it made me wake up and smell the coffee.
I think you should tell her, she deserves to know that he is cheating.
2007-03-15 09:48:49 · answer #4 · answered by topside 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Even though your marriage is breaking up over this it is not your responsibility to tell his wife. He may regret what he did and put it in his past to work on his marriage. If that is not the case she will find out, but don't be the one to ruin someone elses marriage, it won't make you feel better it will probably make you feel worse than you already do.
2007-03-15 09:44:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
OH H@#L YES ! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! !
I would have told as soon as I found out. That SOB didn't give a s&*t about you or his wife when he was with your wife, for that fact neither did your wife. She does deserve to know what kind of SOB he is. AND your wife deserves her a$$ beat by the SOB's wife.
Those saying it's not your responsibility are probably screwing around themselves and wouldn't want to be told on. Who's responsibility IS IT ? ? ? ? Once a cheater always a cheater ! ! ! ! Should you let him get away with it and eventually bring home a deadly disease to a woman who may not deserve it.
2007-03-15 09:51:49 · answer #6 · answered by laself1 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
As someone who is in a similar situation I really don't know what to say. I found out my husband was cheating 2 weeks after the wedding. He was seeing this other woman the same time as me. For the same amount of time. She was married but in a bad marriage is what she said. I guess my husband tried to break it off with her & she called our house & told me. He said he broke it off with her before the wedding & said we'd be out of town on a honeymoon for 2 weeks. EXACTLY 2 weeks later is when she called to tell me. It hurt our relationship for awhile but we are working through it. So I guess I would say......Do what's in your heart. I'm glad she told me in away cause it's made our marriage stronger by working on things....but it still hurt.
2007-03-15 09:56:27 · answer #7 · answered by GeminiGirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't have to do that,like you she might already knew it. All you have to do is divorce your unfaithful wife and start your life again.Ask GODs help. proverbs19:14 ...house and riches are the inheritance of fathers;and a prudent wife is from the Lord.
2007-03-15 10:20:52 · answer #8 · answered by lancelot 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The other guys wife needs to know. Yes, I would tell her if I were you.
2007-03-15 09:48:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely
2007-03-15 09:39:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Absolutely. I was in the same boat and the day I told his wife was one of the best day's I have ever had.
2007-03-15 12:30:12 · answer #11 · answered by normlparker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋