it seems that men lie to me, men that I have a close relationships with.......people who lie do they lie to everyone or just certain people......gosh I am starting to get a complex here.....is in something about me that makes them lie or is it within them to lie ....if they lie to me they also lie to other??
2007-03-15 02:31:16 · 14 answers · asked by M m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It's hard to say if they lie to everyone or just you based on what you just said.
There are many reasons for lying.... too embarassed to tell the truth.... afraid the truth might hurt your feelings.... they don't want to disappoint you..... they're covering their butts for something they did wrong...... Who knows?
If all the men you have close relationships lie to you, maybe you should look inside yourself & try to find something in your character that may cause them to lie to you so much.
I don't know what kind of guys you have a close relationship with, but I find it highly unlikely that every man you know lies to everyone. You seem to be the common factor in it all.
Take some time to reflect on yourself & see what it is about yourself that may encourage them to lie to you. Do you expect a lot from them? Do you always want to hear what makes you happy? Look within yourself to try & find the answer to this dilemma. We cannot give you the answer here. We can only give you suggestions to find out why.
Good luck!
2007-03-15 02:38:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lying is always a form of control. Some people are pathological liars, having learned that they get a rush from manipulating others with lies. But most people lie when they are afraid of the consequences of telling the truth. Lying may be one end of a relationship system, with anger and judgement on the other end. Whether the relationship is a primary one between mates or between parents and children, or a relationship between friends or between co-workers, lying may be a part of it when fear of anger and judgement is an issue. Most people do not know how to handle another's anger and judgement and may revert to being the child they were when they learned to lie to their parents to avoid punishment.
If you want to trust that people are not going to lie to you, then you need to shift your intention in your relationships from controlling to learning.
So it's not just you
2007-03-23 02:24:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to agree with Dave's response! You should probably talk to him about why he feels the need to lie however, expect an answer that could hurt your feeling, if you are referring to your relationship with him.
Try not to stereo type men because, for the most part just like women, they don't care to even speak to you because of this.
For the record, everyone has lied about something at one time or another. Most honest people will lie if they know it will hurt someones feeling or damage them knowing the truth.The ones who claim they have never lied about anything are the ones to watch out for.
2007-03-23 08:39:56 · answer #3 · answered by safetyusa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. You are a asking questions and making demands that cause people to lie to you. Be cool and be a good friend rather than a nag, and people will not lie to you. Unless of course they're *******. Then you should dump them
2007-03-15 09:45:38 · answer #4 · answered by Big Momma Carnivore 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men lie. We lie all the time. We lie to you. We lie to them. We lie to everyone. We lie to our friends. We lie to our enemies. If they are lying about dumb stuff its just guy lies. Like if he said he was at Daves but he was really at Marks. If they are lying about more serious stuff then there might be somthing behind it. Like if he says he was at Daves and he was really at Hooters. I think its an ego thing. We kind of embellish stories when we tell them to the point where we actually leave the facts of the story and begin to create our own. Like one lie makes it necessary for another lie so that the first lie doesnt seem unbelievable. So dont judge guys on whether or not they lie....judge them on the SEVERITY of the lie. If its a dumb one...let it go. We all tell those lies. If its the more serious kind, punch him in the face.....wait...no...dont do that..... just ask him about it. Most guys will suck it up when they are confronted about it.....especially if you caught them in the middle of one.
2007-03-15 09:40:47 · answer #5 · answered by joeinchino2000 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hey I'm a guy and i don't have to lie the guy's who lie are the kind of people you don't need in your life not every one will lie to you they aether lie to make them self look better in front of there friend's or just to git a ha ha funny now you Neda to look at who ever it is and ask them y they lie and if they cant answer you a way that satisfies you tell them to fu ck off love ya have a great life fore now on peace
2007-03-15 09:59:36 · answer #6 · answered by johnny b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be that you are attracted to that type of person. Did you have a person in your family who was like that? Mabye you recognize some of the same mannerisms and attitudes of people who constantly lie from seeing it and being so familiar with it. Maybe you feel comfortable with it and in a strange way, it attracts you.
2007-03-23 08:58:43 · answer #7 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie,if your man lies to you he will and does lie to everyone. You are the one person he should not lie to being in a relationship with you,kick him to the curb,he will always lie to you.
2007-03-15 09:37:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No its not you it's just that you might be choosing the wrong guy. But A man is a man he's gonna lie any way .Even thought they say they are not they are its just you are picking the wrong guy
2007-03-22 16:20:44 · answer #9 · answered by missnewshawty_08 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alot of females lie too....you need to just leave anyone who lies to you....why stay....you can be around positive good people who don't lie..we are out there....and if someone lies to you they lie to alot of people...my one sister is a liar and boy..it is sooo sad.........it also is a SIN!
2007-03-23 08:10:59 · answer #10 · answered by angeleyez1956@verizon.net 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋